Does he love me?

[xiomy00]

My ex and I have an on and off history that goes back 10 years. We only dated for 3 months and he was the one who ended the relationship but, we were friends for 10 years before that and we continue to get together and be intimate again and again, regardless of where we are in our lives (marriage, relationships, etc.) I ended my marriage to someone else last year and he got married only 3 months ago. I thought his marriage would mark the end of our history but, only 1 month ago he came looking for me again. He says he's never had a connection with anyone like the one he has with me, not even with his current wife with whom he has been for 4 years. Do you think he loves me? Lusts for me? Both? Neither? Is he just one of those people who always thinks the grass is greener on the other side? It drives me insane. I care about him very much but I can't seen to figure him out.

[teko]

I dont understand what anyone wants with someone elses leftovers. If I cannot be a one and only with someone. I will be by myself and buy a pal. Lots less drama!

[xiomy00]

Thanks, everyone!

[imanaddict]

I think he may be telling "what you want to hear" so he can continue to have a fling with you. He's a pig! Please, cut off all sexual contact with him and find someone else who wants you and only you. This is only going to end badly so why put yourself through that?

[tbabi20]

I'm glad you see it. Just encourage him in his marriage and make it clear that it's best that you just remain distant friends. You care but can give nothing more, it's his wife's responsibility to give him love, support and security now.

Take care and I hope you find happiness with someone else soon :)

[RockRose]

xio, he wouldn't rather be with you,  or he'd be with you instead of her.

He's with her and enjoying sex on the side,  with you.

When he calls,  you don't have to make yourself available.  

[xiomy00]

That makes sense. It's like the grass seems greener on the other side, no matter where he is. If he's with her, he'd rather be with me. I think you're right; if he was with me, he'd probably try to be with her. I just wish he would leave me alone now that he's made a choice and commitment.

[tbabi20]

He's married now so let him focus on loving his wife. If he truly loved you, why did he marry another? I think that he's confused on what he wants to me. Why would he promise her a life of happiness and eternity together if he has his heart set on another? I just think that if he were with you, he'd do the same as he's doing to his wife now. Let him love his wife and do your best to stay out of it. If you care about him, you'll do this. Do not spoil his wifes happiness forever, by spoiling their marriage. I'm sure you don't want to be the one to be blamed.. it's best for you to live peacefully as you now are.

There are plenty of men out there, he made his choice - respect that.