Best way to cope

[bandcp]

My fiancee, decided finally after a roller coaster of 3 years to put himself in rehab i couldnt be more proud of this man things got really tough for us and i think this is the greatest decision he could have ever made, apart of me was hurt he didnt say goodbye to me but i know it would have just made things harder all i want to do is be supportive and send him inspiring qoutes and tell him how proud and how much i love him and not mention any of the bad things that are going on back at home but im not sure how to deal and handle with all this myself i miss him but i know this is the greatest thing for him he needs this so i guess what im asking is what should i do im doing good for myself with school and work and trying to stay focused and do good on my end but it is hard not having him to confind in or speak this is a wonderful thing for him and i cant even explain the emotions i felt when i found out he decided to do this i couldnt be more proud of him he is an amazing person and doesnt realize how great he is i am proud that he is getting this help and hopefully he will began to see himself through others eyes and see how wonderful and loving and beatiful his heart is when he is clean, but what can i do to be supportive and keeop myself sane at the same time?

[TTinKKerBBell]

P.S.
correction
I meant to say:

a successfull addict always SEES HimSelf as a "recovered" addict.
                                     (not seems)

[TTinKKerBBell]

I agree with SpecialMom.
Let Him concentrate on what He's doing now.  Be there for Him when He contacts You.  If You are going to continue a relationship with Him it would be VERY valuable for You to attend al anon meetings as He will always be an "addict in recovery".  One doesn't stop "being" an addict, an addict who is successful seems HimSelf always as a "recovered" addict.  The best thing You can do is to educate YourSelf.
This I know is true.

My Mother died as a result of Her lifetime addiction to alcohol.  We had a Family Intervention for/with Her to no avail.  

My Son (who was in re-hab twice!!) died of an injection of drug overdose.

I wish You and Your Fiance a LifeTime of Success with His Recovery..

[specialmom]

Hi there and welcome.  Well, I too am very very happy that he is going to rehab and hope that he he gets the gift of sobriety for a lifetime.  Reality is that he will always need to be mindful and to fight his addiction as recovery is for the rest of his life.  So, he'll have to change his life and how he thinks and does things a LOT.

I would support him by leting him be and take in whatever it is he needs to.  I would attend al anon meetings in your area and prepare for life as someone who loves someone recovering rather than an addict.  In all honesty, you write in a rather desperate to be with him way.  This is kind of normal as going away to treatment feels good but you know some things are going to change so it makes you nervous.  Take this as an opportunity to continue to grow yourself and explore your own hobbies, make some friends that are good girlfriends to hang out with, work out, etc.  Develop your own interests and expand your circle.  That is a good thing.

Living with an addict (even if you don't actually live together)--  can be isolating.  

I do wish you luck.  You'll probably be invited for a one week of sessions as family during family week. good luck