First off, I wouldn't be stressing about the surgery. Tonsillectomies are very common and easy surgeries, with very few complications that are possible. I'd talk to your bf about taking a half day to just be there in pre-op with you before the surgery. Tell him you'd really like for him to be there. I've been through a few surgeries myself, and it's always good to have a supportive network of people. Having family there and friends is really nice. Good luck with it all and take care of yourself.
I'm so sorry to hear that the tonsils have got to come out, but this is a straight forward surgery that so many people have had including myself and you are going to be just fine. I can understand not having your bf there for you and how uneased, hurt and upset you are about it and don't blame you. I also understand that he's not close either, but he is able to ask his boss if he can half 1/2 day off at least. Don't worry, ask your parents or a few close friends to be with you when you go into the hospital and surgery. I know it's scary, but yes, you can handle this, which will show your courage through difficult times and also your independence from relying on anyone ok. Have mom, family or few friends for support if your b/f is unable to be there, but let him know how hurt and abandoned your felt in a moment of need. You are going to be just fine, I promise and once you are out of surgery, it's going to take a little bit to heal (soup, jello, ice cream and soft foods for just a short while), but you are going to be just fine. Start getting your support system in place as soon as possible ok. Good Luck, Judy
Two things here.
Yes, work does seem to be more important to him than his girlfriend, which honestly, is not a bad quality in a young man. You don't want it to take complete precedence, i.e. if you were in a horrible car wreck he wouldn't be there. Prioritizing stuff.
Tonscillectomies are painful and you will be down for the week but it's not an emergency. Maybe at this point he's looking at you and evaluating how well you can weather storms - going through this with your mom or other family really is sufficient, Danielle. He may not be the type that wants someone who is needy - he may want a wife who can take care of business in his absence.
The needs you two have may not match up, is what I'm saying. You really seem needy, and he seems independent.
Best wishes.