My Hubby was asking me to try it for quite a while, and all the time! UGH
I never told him no but I told him I was not ready to try that, I suggested maybe start by using a finger to see how that felt.
It was not bad at all and eventually I did let him "enter the exit" and with lots of lube it was good. I would say keep a open mind and start slowly. We do not do this often, maybe a special occasion but to tell you the truth my hubby hasn't asked for it in years, and I am not about to bring it up! LOL I think it was just something he had never done with anyone else and maybe the old girlfriends thought of it as a "exit only" also
I have some friends that flat out refuse with the "exit only" in mind! Some friends are cool trying it too. I kinda think if your not willing to try then you are kinda prudish. But that's my opinion of course.
Did he ever say he would leave you if you did not let him? Prolly not, I think your just so paranoid that he will because you won't. You need to talk to him. Go buy him one of those Anal pocket pals. Then he can go have his way with that! LOL
Good Luck
frank, a little of what you say is true, and if he were asking her to do this rarely, like say once every 5 years, I think that would be something worth considering to save an otherwise excellent relationship.
This is what this guy prefers. He would want it several times a week.
And as others have said, not only is this painful, it's unhealthy.
I don't see anyway to make this work out.
And I've been married 25 years and understand flexibility and compromise. But this doesn't fit in that category.
There is also risk of causing damage to the various blood vessels and other stuff within the target area that can cause some unpleasant and perhaps serious complications with which one might not want to deal.
Jim
Please do NOT do anything you are not comfortable with. If he truly cares for you, he will not continue to push for such an act to happen. What Beargizmo(Jim) said is true..."it does not expand to accept a penis, has no natural lubrication, requires extensive cleaning prior to entering nor all sorts of safeguards to prevent bacterial transmission post intercourse" which is something to really think about. I've been with my boyfriend for a while and he would never want me to do anything that I don't want to.
I've been with my husband 5 years married almost 3 of those. We are very much in love and he asked me to give anal a go. I did. It hurt like h3ll...it hasn't happened since. Guess what, his love for me out weighed his want for anal sex. To say that everybody wants your relationship to fail and none of us are in love or relationships is absolutely ridiculous
well, thank you Ashelen. I've managed to exist for 60 years without it and the thought of it does nothing for me, nor would I ever want to do anything against my wife's wishes and don't.
Jim