How to deal with an my man and his ex

[kc7578]

My story is kind of long but ill try to make it short, when i got involved with my man he was married at the time he decided to leave his wife to live with me now is been 2 years since this happen, short after he lefter her she told me that she was pregnant so when i told him he said that he still wanted to be with me so he never left even do i told him that he was free to go back to her well she had the baby and he started to see the baby after a month or so when the baby got a little older he would pick the baby up and would bring her home well one day his ex saw us and realize that i was pregnant she called me and told me that she did not wanted anything from him and that he would never see his little girl again. After a month she called him back to ask for some money and told him that if he wanted to see the baby she need to be around that she did not want me around her daughter and that is my problem yeah its been 2 years but he has not file for divorce and I'm currently 29weeks pregnant he tells me that he only goes to see his little girl that he loves me and would not do me wrong that he does not want to loose me but i hate that she calls to ask him things about her car and all this other personal stuff i don't know how to deal with the fact that she spends  4,5 or 6 hours with him using the baby as an excuse, every time she finds out something about us she gets mad and takes the baby away from him but then at the same time he does not want to take her to court he tell me that he does not want to be ugly to her, i think that because he fills guilty of cheating and leaving her. What could i do to deal with this is killing me inside every time that i talk to him about it we end up in a fight please help me!!

[treazzure007]

i had a co-worker who has been dating a married man "who is getting divorced" for the past 8 years.  the wife (we can't call her ex wife now can we?) is still in touch with him everyday, calling him, needing his assistance w/ the kids, taking up his time away from co worker is how she sees it.  co worker used to rant and rave about that pestering wife being soooo annoying and rude, so obsessed w/ her boyfriend blah blah.  we used to listen and roll our eyes and talk her down when she walked off.  nobody has sympathy for the woman dating the husband.  sorry.  they are still married.  they probably will be another decade getting divorced seeing that the child is young and he hasn't made moves already.  not only that, if you were not there, he'd likely be back w/ his wife now.  just get used to it all.  in some countries, all the man's women and children live together you know  

[concern293]

hey this sounds something like my life but my husband and his ex were not together she was already half way in her pregnancy. but she has never stopped having feelings for him. she uses his daughter to hurt him and doesn't let him see her cause her man doesn't let her even though he's not the father of my step daughter.
and she doesn't have any problem with me seeing her cause i never get involve in there problem and she knows that i got with him after.
this is something that you need to resolve and think if he left his wife for you, you don't think his going to do it again being with you, his not going to change. and you need to let him go. married man are taken and women need to respect that especially if you know he has a family.

[pinkbelle]

I think that before you got into this relationship .. he should have truly ended his relationship with her.. he should have filed for divorce.. if he is truly sincere about being with you then he should have already filed those papers.. it sounds like 'he wants his cake and he wants to eat it too' .. men love attention and hey why not get it from two different women?  I truly feel bad for the wife.. its a tough situation for her.. I would be very hurt and upset..  but i am a firm believer in karma and honey your karma is not good right about now. im not judging just simply stating a fact..  You chose to get into this relationship fully knowing he was married ( seperated or not) so you knew that it would not be just an easy relationship.. you knew it would get messy and if you say you didn't then honey you are just lieing to yourself.. i say you gotta take the good with the bad.. if you want to be with him then you are gonna have to deal with this issue.. his daughter will always be his daughter no matter what.. remember that! and once a cheater always a cheater .. sorry but 99% of the time its true.. maybe you know that deep down and thats why you feel so insecure about it

[joesprincess2007]

She admitted she lied and used the kids to make it seem believable. Once I told her sex is meaningless she decided that tactic didn't work.She's just not willing to let go and will use any means necessary...I expect a certain amount of emotion but a person who goes to such extremes for such a long time is not mentally stable.  I've been in her shoes, I understand how it hurts, but then you get a grip on reality and realize it just wasn't meant to be and you move on. Two people have to love each other to make a relationship work, if one doesn't feel anything for the other what would be the point in keeping it going?

[AnxiousGurl]

what a mess is right. and you had no right to get involved with a married man. and if he's willing to have an affair, no doubt he'll do it to you too. now your pregnant. you cant get mad at him for speaking with her, theyre still married, why dont you get out of a relationship with him til you know he's divorced. if he ever gets a divorce. hun sorry to say but, your in a relationship with a cheater, and thats what you get. I dont know what else to tell you. She will always have something to do with him, seeing he is the father of their children, there is nothing you can do about that one.

[mami1323]

That is true, it's not right to put the kids in the middle.  I hope your bf is willing to get the kids some counseling.  How do you know that what she was telling you wasn't true about them having sex still?  Well I hope the children don't continue to suffer like that.