I guess I just can't see any reason he wouldn't cause I feel he's so much better and could get so much better
We so talk about it but we just can't think of a way to resolve it. I know I'm being stupid and it's all in my head cause he's.amazing. Maybe I just have to keep telling myself that. Thank to both for your help
...How he is towards you? If you dont trust him and their doubts its not easy and iys open having that talk with him about how you feel.Good Luck.
Emily fair play you have the doubts but you have to base your relationship on evidence of how your partner is towards you. Having the miscarriage and a low self esteem doesnt help you feeling negative. What you need to weigh up is evidence off how he is towards you against
Thing is, we rarely go out. through our own choice, not because we don't let each other. Neither of us accuse each other of anything. We talk about it though. I know that he hasn't cheated but it wouldn't be any different if we were with anyone else. Were not pushing each other away. We just want to feel,more comfortable with each other going out etc. I am in love with him and have no intention of leaving him, just want the perfect relationship
I know EXACTLY how you feel.
I am in the same boat (aside from being unemployed) and my BF loves going out with his single friends and drinking.
This is something that you both have to work on. It is YOUR issue and YOUR insecurity. It is not fair to him if you begin to double check on him or nitpick into everything he does because you are suspicious and cannot let go of the fact that your ex, not your current boyfriend, cheated.
This is not easy but it is not his problem it is yours. You have to trust him. If there is no trust in a relationship where neither one of you have done anything wrong than it is not going to work.
If it is available to you couple's therapy (of even just you) wouldn't hurt. I just don't know what a therapist could say to you that would help because in the end it has to be something you come to grips with and what helps is going to be different for everyone.
For me it took several months but I accepted that my bf is NOT my ex and, as he loves me and was also cheated on, he would NOT do that to me.
we both told eachother that if we are unhappy in the relationship we will tell eachother first before thinking about seeking happiness elsewhere while still together. It is just painful and unfair.
Good luck hun!