Have him see a uriologist.
Yes I * must * marry him and i always think it will be fine once we are married we cannot live without each other i dont mind getting some sperm in any form other than he himself ejaculating for getting a baby and just stay with him. But i always think about it.
ANd is this my problem by any chance since am not reacting he says i will have to make him feel my reacting and many other acts i do not know what to do. please advice and also give me some websites where i can see different positions..
Should he stop masturbating would that help. And how will i make him feel when he is in me when he's not in me i make him feel teh max but when he is in me i dont make him feel and for both of us its become a problem now and when we start having sex we do not think of the pleasure we think that we will have to do it this time.
Another thing which i would like to specify here is tell now we would have tried it not more than 5 or 6 times do you think we have to try it more number of times..
Anything which improves will be great. Please suggest..
I would go to the bookstore (or online to a bookstore) and look for books on sexual disfunction or sexual issues, and on sexual positions. I would also see about getting to a therapist who specializes in sexual issues.
Even getting to a regular therapist would help, since things are so locked up in anger, blame, shame and fear. It won't get better by magic, you two have to work at it in a constructive way. Doing that with a therapist's help would be better than how you are approaching it now.
There are many books on different sexual positions. However, that doesn't sound like the source of your problem.
Are you in a position where you simply *must* marry him? I sure would not do it, at least while this is still unresolved.