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Hurt feelings,, what should I do??
Ok my boyfriend and I love eachother very much , it's been nearly 7months and the sex is incredible but there is one lil thing that bugs me. He always complains that my vagina smells really bad. I mean, I know that yeah it does have a slight smell but I think he's being over the top abd fussy. It really hurts my feelings though,, I just feel really insecure especially when he tries to go down on me. I mean I enjoy it but I'm always thinking 'omg what if I smell bad today' and it just makes the experience less enjoyable for me. Having said that,, it took me AGES to get him to go down on me. He's just been really fussy saying it smells bad :/ ughh it may sound petty but it really hurts me and when I tell him not to say it cos it makes me insecure, he just goes 'oh it's okay I can buy you a special soap for that' and that hurts waaaaay more ): I'm just really upset I feel like crap. I cnt really explain how I feel it just hurts. I don't think I can talk to him about it and I dnt really want to. I'd feel to awkward! What should I do guys please I need advice ! I'm clean I shower everyday and sometimes twice a day. I always wash down there like 5 times before I see him. I'm very hygenic !! HELP x
Oh, and I just HAVE to say....even though this is an old thread....I sure hope the girl dumped the "douche-bag". Sorry....couldn't RESIST! It was just too appropriate. No offense meant. :o)
Actually, while yogurt is generally good for you (ORALLY....NEVER EVER put anything in the vagina that isn't made for it, or suited for it, sheesh)...the idea that ingesting yogurt can prevent or cure a yeast infection isn't true. It's basically a wives' tale. I've asked countless docs...you would have to eat Yoplait's entire daily shipment in ONE day to have that effect. Same way with the cranberry juice/urinary health deal....you would have to drink gallons. Still, both yogurt and cranberry juice are good for you anyway...just don't expect miracles, lol. I personally like MY cranberry juice with vodka...and that works. I quickly forget about any symptom I may have had! ;0)
On the other hand, the oral supplements (like Lactinex, or a cranberry pill) CAN be more beneficial because of the amount present in the pills/capsules. The docs I work automatically put a patient on Lactinex prophylactically while they are on an antibiotic (and for about a week after). But again, as a dietary (food) supplement, it's just not feasible.
Douching is not recommended. There should never be a time where it was necessary to douche, unless it was directed by your doc for a medical reason (which is rare). You don't have to douche after your period, if you THINK you have strong odor, because you think you aren't "clean" nothing....no reason is appropriate. Douching interrupts the natural balance of the vagina, the normal flora (the GOOD bacteria) and can actually lead to yeast infections, among other things. That's basically the same idea as overdoing it with antibiotics. That will interrupt the normal flora of the colon, which can lead to a serious bacterial infection called c-diff.
Now, sometimes we're a bit more self conscious about odor than others. We all have those days. The wipes/washes for EXTERNAL use only are a nice product. They really don't DO much but mask the odor like a perfume would, but sometimes, it benefits US, so WE are not as focused on the smell (especially when mother nature is visiting). That being said, ANY new odor that isn't something you've noticed before should always be assessed by your doctor first. Things like BV and other infections need treated, and a foul odor is one of the trademark symptoms.
Unless there is a specific medical condition, there is no need to EVER "treat" a vaginal odor, or discharge. It's all part of our cycles, and how our body is supposed to function. Just think of the v-jay-jay as a well oiled machine....it should only need an annual "under the hood" check up (pun most DEFINITELY intended!! LOL)
On the other hand, the oral supplements (like Lactinex, or a cranberry pill) CAN be more beneficial because of the amount present in the pills/capsules. The docs I work automatically put a patient on Lactinex prophylactically while they are on an antibiotic (and for about a week after). But again, as a dietary (food) supplement, it's just not feasible.
Douching is not recommended. There should never be a time where it was necessary to douche, unless it was directed by your doc for a medical reason (which is rare). You don't have to douche after your period, if you THINK you have strong odor, because you think you aren't "clean" nothing....no reason is appropriate. Douching interrupts the natural balance of the vagina, the normal flora (the GOOD bacteria) and can actually lead to yeast infections, among other things. That's basically the same idea as overdoing it with antibiotics. That will interrupt the normal flora of the colon, which can lead to a serious bacterial infection called c-diff.
Now, sometimes we're a bit more self conscious about odor than others. We all have those days. The wipes/washes for EXTERNAL use only are a nice product. They really don't DO much but mask the odor like a perfume would, but sometimes, it benefits US, so WE are not as focused on the smell (especially when mother nature is visiting). That being said, ANY new odor that isn't something you've noticed before should always be assessed by your doctor first. Things like BV and other infections need treated, and a foul odor is one of the trademark symptoms.
Unless there is a specific medical condition, there is no need to EVER "treat" a vaginal odor, or discharge. It's all part of our cycles, and how our body is supposed to function. Just think of the v-jay-jay as a well oiled machine....it should only need an annual "under the hood" check up (pun most DEFINITELY intended!! LOL)
I think EATING yogurt, as medical professionals recommend, will provide all the "good bacteria" necessary. And, I agree with SM about douching...it's no longer a healthy practice unless ordered by a physician for a very specific condition.
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Oh boy. I'm not sure about some of these recommendations. For a long time now we've known that douching actually has the opposite effect and is not a great idea for us. And using fruits and yogurt . . .
Well, anyway, I'm thinking that the best thing is to consult a physician. They'll be best equipped to tell you what is going on. Peace and luck to all.
Well, anyway, I'm thinking that the best thing is to consult a physician. They'll be best equipped to tell you what is going on. Peace and luck to all.
I am a junior gyno. one of the most popular reason for vaginal smell is the use of cheap after market tampons they tend to disintergrate very rapidly leaving rotten decomposing tanpon and blood mixture it can get stuck in there for a very long time.cure and precaution use name brand products,use a medicated dush and follow up with a masingil mountain herb dush.you will make everyone happy especialy you,good luck HONESTAL
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