Husband signed up for a dating site

[megochick101]

So my husband just received an alert on his phone that his new account at some dating site has been set up. HE is currently sleeping so I haven't said anything about it. But since I am a curious person, I checked the site out. It's not just a normal dating site such as match or e harmony, no it a SEX dating site. It a site that you can go to to find people in your area to have SEX with!!!!! I almost woke him up and started bitching at him, but I don't want him knowing that I know he has an account at this site. I did note the website name and his login info, as it was conveniently in the alert on his phone, and put that information in the notepad of my phone for future reference. But i'm not sure what i should do, should I just confront him about it, or do I wait and see if he uses the site? But then if he actually uses the site, I don't know how I'll handle that.

But on the same hand, if i confront him about this, he may just go to a different site and hide it better. So it may be better that I know. D*mn it i'm freakin PISSED!!

So confront him, or wait it out?? Any opinions out there?

[Coco87]

I'm sorry for what happened but if you confront him are you ready to deal with the possible outcome? Are you ready to accept the fact that he's looking for sex from other people? What happens if it back fires and he wants to seperate? I understand my questions doesn't help but you have to prepare yourself for anything before you confront him... When my  bestfriend's caught her ex cheating he told her well you were looking for something and you found it, why are you mad? and ended it with her. Just make sure your prepared for anything...

[mami1323]

Good luck keep us posted.

[megochick101]

Not yet, tonight hopefully, I ended up falling asleep last night at like 7 watching tv and he put the kids to bed for once. then i woke up at like 3 and actually went to bed. So hopefully both of us will stay awake tonight to talk!

[mami1323]

Hey mego, just wondering if you had that chat yet with your hubby.  Hope all is well.

[megochick101]

I'm leaning towards spam, and definitely going to have a talk with him tonight about our relationship.

Specialmom we both have that problem when we talk of saying you and i alot and i know we need to work on that so i'll try it tonight to see if "we" can fix "our" relationship. there, already starting, just gotta stay in that mindset because we are both bad with the you accusations. And i'll try and shut up and just remain calm and wait for his answer as i do always tend to try and steer the conversation.

If i do happen to find him on the site, i'm not going to contact him at all ro try and be really sneaky and set up anything with him, because just seeing that he's on a dating site is enough for me, i don't need to catch him actually meeting up with anyone, and i don't want to let it go until he does try and meet someone. But as i couldn't find him i'm thinking it's just a random spam, probably from a porn site he goes to or something.

But i'll have a chat with him about what we both need to do to make our relationship the best it can be.

[Nighthawk61]

I wouldn't be able to resist making a date to meet him somewhere shady. and watching him squirm when he saw me. lol

[megochick101]

well i looked through 53 pages of guys within 10 miles of where i am, they don't have a search by user name function which seems stupid to me but it was sorted by distance from my zipcode and i didn't see him in there. Which either means he hasn't logged in yet to verify the profile or it was just a spam email.

[Nighthawk61]

remember that you to state what you were looking for specifically, maybe he and your info didn't jive, (looking for different things) or that he was looking outside of your area only?