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Husband wants sex, i am not interested.
My husband and i have recently had a baby a month ago. He wants sex everyday but i am not interested and often see it as a chore. I want to be close to him and cuddle but am not interested in having any type of sex. if i dont have sex with him he pleases himself while watching pornography. Him watching pornography hurts me because i feel as if he likes that female better than me. He constantly bugs me for sex until i give in or later that night will masterbate. what should i do. please help me. This is effecting our marriage. It is causing him a lot of stress but at the same time i dont know how to become more interested and am currently unhappy with the way i look if i dont have on form fitting clothing and makeup but dont feel like doing this all the time.
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Thanks!
Emily
Thanks!
Emily
Hey there BGB
I am glad to hear that you have talked to your husband. Therapy will make a world of difference in your life.
Unless your daughter's immune system is compromised, there is no reason she can't go out for a walk in cold weather. What is more likely to get her sick, is other humans, especially school age kids. Unless she becomes hypothermic, the cold air will not hurt her. It might help with sleep and colic (fresh air)
The most important thing is a hat... Kids lose 40% of their body heat through their heads. So bundle her up in a cute winter outfit... Coat hat mittens scarf booties and blanket... Take her for a walk with your husband. Check her regularly to make sure she is warm. I loved my umbrella stroller best, but they have all those cool carseat combos, now.
Enjoy!
I am glad to hear that you have talked to your husband. Therapy will make a world of difference in your life.
Unless your daughter's immune system is compromised, there is no reason she can't go out for a walk in cold weather. What is more likely to get her sick, is other humans, especially school age kids. Unless she becomes hypothermic, the cold air will not hurt her. It might help with sleep and colic (fresh air)
The most important thing is a hat... Kids lose 40% of their body heat through their heads. So bundle her up in a cute winter outfit... Coat hat mittens scarf booties and blanket... Take her for a walk with your husband. Check her regularly to make sure she is warm. I loved my umbrella stroller best, but they have all those cool carseat combos, now.
Enjoy!
I talked to my husband about going through therapy (for my childhood abuse). He seemed very supported and said he thought it would be a good idea if i thought it could really help me. I would consider taking a walk with my little girl but its starting to get cold where i live and i don't want her to get sick. I am looking foreward to spring and winter hasn't even arrived yet. My husband loves to walk ... and that is something we could do together.... man i wish it was warmer.
Hey there
Did you check into getting some therapy?
By the way, all the verious HOTLINES will take calls from people. I have talked to people and I was not calling with the particular HOTLINE problem.
They seemed to have alot of resources at their fingertips.
I am sure you are exhausted, with a colicky baby. Try getting outside for a walk. The baby would probably sleep better with some fresh air. And you will have more enery. Fresh air makes me sleep well.
Hang in there BGB.
Did you check into getting some therapy?
By the way, all the verious HOTLINES will take calls from people. I have talked to people and I was not calling with the particular HOTLINE problem.
They seemed to have alot of resources at their fingertips.
I am sure you are exhausted, with a colicky baby. Try getting outside for a walk. The baby would probably sleep better with some fresh air. And you will have more enery. Fresh air makes me sleep well.
Hang in there BGB.
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second of all...this is sexual pressure and a form of abuse. he needs to stop pressuring you into sex and then ignoring your feelings by making you feel like you HAVE to have sex with him to keep him from masturbating to porn.
consider therapy. couples therapy, marriage therapy, sex therapy, or all of the above. you both need help learning to communicate and compromise in the bedroom.
above all....DON'T feel unattractive. YOU JUST HAD A BABY! sweetie...your body just went through the most difficult thing a body CAN go through in a lifetime. give yourself a break and try to love yourself.
most likely your sex drive will come back as your hormones level out again after the baby's birth...but you have to give it some time...and he needs to be patient for your health AND for the health of your relationship.
sorry you're going through this, you're very vulnerable right now and it sounds like he's not being very sensitive. speak up...stand up for yourself.