Do liars really love?

[lovemybabies6]

I've been with my bf for over seven years and know how he is better then he does! He lies to EVERYONE! About lil things, stupid things. He'll talk on the phone and make up exaggerated stories to friends for no reason. I've found him in lies to me and I can't tolerate it. My question is can a compulsive liar love? I'm convinced he can't. Please give me your opinion, thank you!

[lovemybabies6]

Yes, I am willing to let go and move on because he says he doesn't believe in counseling and thinks we should be able to work this out on our own. But I'm fed up and can take care of the kids and myself just fine. I'm so unsure of what to do being 23 weeks pregnant and having one other child with him. I did everything to avoid getting pregnant including birth control and still got pregnant. After this pregnancy is over I'm getting my tubes tied. I feel ashamed to be pregnant by him knowing the type of guy he is. I'm turned off and can't seem to get over this. I feel I have no choice but to move on and be on my own. There's no other way. Thanx everyone!

[Nighthawk61]

Lying absolutely infuriates me. Nobody is perfect, and I don't expect perfection, other than this one point. NO lying. I feel for you. To have stayed 7 years in this is tough. As to can a habitual lier love? Probably they can love. Being so concerned with what other people think and him feeling less than he's like to be, might be the problem. Maybe trying to motivate him to get to a better place in his life, by supporting his dreams to go back to college and get a position in life where he could be truly proud to be real. Talking to a marriage counselor about how you feel about living with a partner who lies, is probably your best bet, if you're not already with one foot out the door that is. This is an ugly habit, and was likely picked up from his family of origin. Like anything else, if a person get's away with something for long enough they'll continue until someone puts up a road block. I think the question is, whether you love him enough to get him help, or at least set up an intervention of sorts, like marriage counseling to get your marriage on track. What do you say about loving your husband through this and to the other side? He might just need a therapist. Are you willing to let go without getting him to one?

[Chima7]

It's tough being with a compulsive liar. You never really know what's true, if anything, and what's false. It would be hard for me to be in a relationship with someone like that. I agree that it's really hard to respect someone who constantly lies.

[lovemybabies6]

He did start lying early on, his step dad is the same way so I'm assuming he picked it up from him. Just so frustrating. Hard to respect a man who can't just tell the truth. Thanx for the advice!

[Life360_Dave]

Hi, ive been around for a while and in my opinion it is very common for most men to act this way. I feel it starts early in childhood and is carried on most of their lives. I think it has to do with being the head of the house and the great provider. Its not really lieing but more of wishing and conviniencing themselves of the fact.
Throughout history people have the strange ability to convinience themselves that they are right even when in their heart they know they are wrong.

Its done because of many reasons including the wanna be syndrome. In a sense it might have a positive outcome as its now something they have to live up to. Things in life have motivating factors and depending on the person, depends how they react.
If a person have great bills and expensis, they can hold back spending or they can try to acheive more income. Both are possible.