Is a month too early to establish boyfriend and girlfriend

[BlissfulJoyAlisa]

Hi you guys! I am a 23 year senior college student and I have been dating this 24 year old. Me and him went to highn school together and I even liked him back then but he turned me down. Now, 5 years after high school he is back in my life in a good way!! Being that I am college student and once lived the lifestyle as any young girl in college such as dating men and falling in out of love, I am well trained on dating men because I have had my share and he has too. We both went seprate ways with our lives after highschool he and I both went off to college but somehow mange to always stay in touch via social network. Now that he has graduated from college 2 years ago and I have got less than 4 months until I graduate, the timing for our relationship is perfect!!  I can tell him everything! I suffer with horrible STD anxiety and I was able to express it to him and he also gave me so much good advice. We have been talking for a month and and some weeks and in a few more days it will make two months since we have been talking. This guy is like my best friend is growing into my lover. I have never once felt this way before. He makes me feel so much wanted. Just recently he asked could we make it official and I replied yes. I feel comfortable with however I am concerned that we are possibly moving to fast because I have been told that it is a 90 day rule to form a relationship. I need to learn how to set rules at my pace than to follow what other people says. We went out on almost a total of like 6 maybe 7 dates and all of them were fantastic.Although we have been doing other sexual acts such as oral or frotting(rubbing genitals together) he accepts my decision to wait until I am ready for intercourse sex reason being I have extreme anxiety of contracted STDS even with protection(Read my question history on here) Matter of fact me and him has both planned to go get tested together because he feels that if he sees he doesn't have anything and I don't either then I wouldn't be so anxious. Anyways my questions are is a month too soon to be in a relationship?? and how do I overcome this anxiety??

[AnnieBrooke]

I agree with RockRose.  Anxiety finds a place to land.  It's manifesting as fear of STDs today, but if you were to convince yourself that you don't have an STD or any chance of getting one, it would probably manifest as fear of pregnancy tomorrow, or something else.  She's not kidding about saying "But what if the tests are WRONG?!?!?!"  I see that one all the time on the DNA/Paternity forum.   Anyway, see a good therapist about anxiety, and work on that.  It will help you in every way.

[TTinKKerBBell]

not to add to Your anxiety BUT I fail to understand why so many seem to think that oral sex is not sex

You/He are putting/taking anothers' genitals into an orifice/mouth.

Don't think You are 'protected' from disease with oral sex as std's CAN be contracted orally as well.

[RockRose]

It's really up to you to decide when it's appropriate to consider yourselves in a relationship.

But about the STD anxiety.   No amount of proof that neither of you has an STD will be helpful for you.  This isn't about an STD,  but rather about a pattern of anxiety in your mind that has rested itself comfortably in the fear of contracting an STD.  If you get the results and they are negative,  you will feel a flood of relief that will last about 5 minutes,  and then your anxiety will begin to rebuild the wall brick by brick.  What if the tests were wrong.  What if he didn't have an STD when he got tested but now he does.  And on and on.

Rather than trying to prove to yourselves that you don't have an STD,  the best way to go about this is to talk to a doctor about your anxiety and get that relieved.

Best wishes.