Advice on addiction in my relationship

[Drea1121]

My boyfriend and I are both 30. We have been together for 13 years but 5 years ago we both got involved in taking pain pills then later herion and now have been battling addiction for 4 years. We have always have had a great relationship. Now we are getting clean and hearing we can't be together if we want to be sober. Not ok with me. Advice would be so appreciated

[CML2014]

I agree with Specialmom.......but being an addictive person myself, I don't think you will just accept that answer.

.....sooooooo try it! You will have your answer in a very short time!

Sincerely wishing you both the best!
CML

[specialmom]

Hi there.  Well, this is tricky.  You are both sick with very serious addictions that you both did together.  If one slips, it is likely the other will as well.  It's dangerous.  It also becomes an issue of an addicted couple learning to deal with each other sober.  Many recovering couples struggle with that to the point that it heads them back down the road of using.  They want you to be strong on your own before trying to have your sobriety tied to someone else's.  I think it is good advice to work on you. . .  JUST you and your sobriety before trying to tackle a relationship that had such significant destruction in it.  Same for your partner who needs to work on HIM before worrying at all about you.  This is about saving your life and is to be MOST important to you.  If the relationship is in contest for that, it is going to be hard for you to remain sober.  Your sobriety has to be above all else including taking a break from a person that you used heroine with.  (even if it is your boyfriend).  If the boyfriend is more important than your sobriety, using again is likely.  good luck and congratulations sincerely for getting clean.  wishing you much much success with this.  Big hugs as it is probably the hardest thing you've ever done.  peace