My husband and I have been married for 7 years now, and we have, what I believe to be, a pretty healthy and loving relationship. We have gone through our fair share of ups and downs of course, but overall, we are very much in love, and try hard to be attentive to each other's needs, and the needs of our marriage. We have 3 children (ages 10, 5, & 3), and all of the normal daily demands to keep us busy each and every day. Our biggest challenges throughout the years we've been together, have been the common ones; stress, money problems, kids, and at times, a lack of desire in the bedroom (always from me), but for the most part (other than the year or two periods of time after just having a new child), our sex life has remained pretty regular, consistent, and satisfying for both of us. I deal w/ the added hardship of having a few health conditions (fybromyalgia, chronic fatigue syndrome, and possibly MS), which has w/o a doubt, placed some strain on our relationship, but one thing I believe we are very good about, is talking about our problems whenever we feel they are interfering w/ how we get along w/ each other. Our top priority is making sure we are always aware of how our actions may be affecting one another, and keeping each other's feelings in mind at all times. Both of us agree that first and foremost, we are best friends, and want to always remain that way, because after all, if you can't be best friends w/ the person you've chosen to marry, have children w/, and spend the rest of your life w/, how can you expect to have an honest, loving, and trust based marriage? So now that I've painted a picture of how our relationship is structured, I'll get to the point of why I'm posting this question. As I mentioned earlier, there have been periods of time throughout our marriage where I have lost the desire to be sexually intimate as frequently as I normally do (btw, I am 27 and he is 29. We typically have sex around 3x per week, or every other day when my libido is functioning normally), and during those timeframes, I have never really taken any issue w/ my husband using other methods to satisfy his sexual needs, ie. pornographic magazines, videos, or Internet websites. Even during those stretches of time where sex sat on the back burner, and was more often than not, usually initiated by my husband rather than myself, I still tried hard to be concious of the fact that my husband still needed that intimate time to be sexual and close w/ me (and that I needed it as well, even if my body wasn't doing the best job of alerting me to it), so I continued to make the effort to engage in making love w/ him at least on a weekly basis if at all possible, because I know how important that activity is in a marriage. Anyway, over the past 6 months or so, and after discontinuing some of the medications I had been taking that I am now realizing were directing contributing to my decreased sexual desire, as well as the fact that my youngest child is now 3 years old, I am happy to say that I have fully returned to my normal, sexual self again! Like REALLY sexual self!! It has been a gradual thing, but I have steadily progressed from the once a week chore, to now initiating sex w/ my husband every other night, and every single night if he'll go for it! He loves it, and things have really spiced up in the bedroom for us! As I said, this has happened slowly overly the past 6 months, but I grew exceptionally more interested in having sex just over the past month or two, and at first, didn't really know how to go about approaching the act w/ him, so I don't think he realized quite how strong my urges were, and therefore wasn't aware that I was as "on board" w/ doing it regularly again as I actually was. SO... one night, the question of "are you still masturbating to porn online?" just popped out of my mouth, right after we had finished up a lovely little tumble together. He said "um yeah, occasionally. Why? It's not very often since we've been more active, but if it's been a couple of days, I do" (this was after our frequency had improved, but wasn't to the point that it is now), and I suddenly found myself feeling irritated, bitter, and even a little bit jealous about the idea of my husband getting turned on and sexually aroused to the point of orgasm, by a woman other than me, even if it was just through a computer screen! Not to say I ever really loved the idea to begin w/, but I knew that he had needs to fulfill, and if I wasn't in the mindset to assist him in achieving that, I should at least be reasonable about him using other methods to accomplish it, but now that I was giving him all of that and more, I didn't think that option needed to be utilized, nor should he want to! As I thought about it more over the following days, it occured to me that the women in those videos are being treated so disrespectfully all for the film company's financial gain, and there are so many stories that prove that all these graphic videos that are making their way into the homes of married couples around the country, are very often damaging relationships to the point where they many times cannot be repaired because once a man begins satisfying himself by watching unrealistic sexual performances that he can't reenact in his own life at home, it becomes much more difficult for him to acheive that same level of pleasure w/ his wife, and sometimes even leads to addiction of those videos. I have heard it again and again, but never really thought too much about it in my own marriage because "my husband isn't like that", but niether were so many of those other husbands out there who ended up hooked on porn, or cheated on their wives. I don't mean to sound overly dramatic, but it has been bothering me, and I don't know if I'm being irrational, or if this is something that most women are concerned about. I want to be respectful of my husband's natural needs and urges, but everyone has natural needs and urges and that sure doesn't mean they should act on them all. If I am giving my husband all the sexual attention he could possibly ask for, do I have the right to expect him to ditch the porno videos? He's really not someone who needs a lot of sexual stimulation. He hasn't even done it since we've been having sex a lot, but I just feel like it should be something that's off limits as long as we are having a good sex life together. Let me also differenciate between when I say porno videos, and any other kinds of sexual materials. I don't have a problem w/ magazines, pictures, or even "erotica" type videos. It's just the hardcore porn stuff that I am not comfortable w/ him watching. Sorry for the lengthy novel I've written here. didn mean to ramble on for so long, but I'd love to get some insight from people on this. Not only from other married women, but from men as well would be great! Thanks!