Is she lying.

[confusedbloke2]

I was friends with this girl for a year before we went out. She was quite ill during the relationship, has been tested for cancer a few times till they eventually found out what was wrong with her. and it put pressure on our relationship and I felt like I couldn't handle it so I split up with her. We were sort of togehter after we broke up but then I started seeing someone else a few weeks later.  I really like this new girl a lot. Anyway a few weeks later, she comes to me and tells me she's pregnant. She showed me the pregnancy test which she said she had taken before she left her house to come and see me and she said she'd be happy to take a pregnancy test in front of me, but by this time the stores were closed so we would have had to wait till tomorrow. I said I wouldn't believe anything till she had had a blood test and I wanted to be there when she had it done. But the next day she went to the doctors clinic to book it in and they said she could have it done straight away and I wasn't around.
Then she came over to my house and said she had the blood test, and also was feeling confused because she came on her period. but it was really light.
Then that evening the doctor phoned her and said that there were really small traces of the pregnancy hormone in her body and thought she may have suffered a chemical pregnancy (an early miscarriage that u don't realise is happening basically) but she would need an ultrasound to confirm it. She immeditely sent me a text explaining what the doctor had said, and asked me if I wanted to go to the doctor with her to have an ultrasound to find out what was going on. I said no because I didn't believe her. Then she had a go at me when she saw me, saying this was both our mess regardless, and she wanted my support through it because she wanted me to take responsibility too. The next day she mailed me doctors letters proving what happened and also gave me the number of a friend who was there when she took one of the pregnancy tests, to prove it had turned positive within minutes. I dont know what to do. She has been quite ill this year, and i have been to the hospital with her a few times when we were sitll going out when she needed to go, so it does seem like a coincidence. can anyone offer advice,?

[heatherlynn22]

so you want people to tell you what you want to hear so YOU feel better? is it possible for her to have a miscarriage that soon after taking a pregnancy test...yes it is. a chemical pregnancy just happens as do miscarriages. they could takes hours, days or weeks to pass. if you are searching for sympathy for dumping your pregnant g/f who is sick...you're not going to get it here. and if she's given you proof that YES she was pregnant and then YES she did loose the baby why all the doubt? she's obviously going through a horrible time this year and you are just adding to it. did you know extra stress can cause a woman to loose a baby? quit trying to feel bad for yourself and start having some sympathy for this poor woman before karma comes back to bite you in the a$$.

[dimples09]

Dude get over your self already. There are many women ttc and when they get a BFP only to turn around and lose the baby a day or two later it cuts them deep. Face it she was pregnant and then lost the baby a day after she found out. Did you goggle chemical pregnancy? Why does it bother you so much? All of us know the answer its bc you are and have been a big fat jerk to this women when she needed you the most. Do her a favor and exit out of her life at least give her a chance to heal herself from the hurt and pain that you caused. P.S. Most women that lie about being pregnant don't say the lost the baby the next day then actually go have an u/s (that costs plenty of money) to show that they were miscarrying and then bring home a Dr.'s note. Thats to much trouble for nothing, I have to wonder did you run your thoughts past your new gf and she is making you doubt your ex. Just a thought.

[imanaddict]

Seriously, this isn't healthy. If you have moved on, forget about it. Yes, women CAN have periods and still be pregnant. Yes, Dr. offices CAN call at 7 am but if you doubt it, call them for yourself if you are that stuck on finding out if she's lying or not.

What does your new GF think of all this? Does she know you are on here seeking advice about this situation? If so, what does she think about it?

[mami1323]

"I guess i'm just trying to convince myself she's lying because its easier on me, i feel horrible. When we were together she used to get ill with an assortment of different symptoms so her friends didnt believe her illness. I did because her blood test results and urine samples are coming back abnormal and plus shes meant to be having an operation soon but i want to distance myself and forget about her and concentrate on my new girlfriend. I know im really horrible."

These are your words.  Stop trying to convince yourself that she's lying.  

[iam1butterfly]

Is she lying?
Is she not lying?
What does it matter?
You've already dumped her and took up with "someone else a few weeks later."
A bit soon after the break-up, I would say.

[confusedbloke2]

But isn't it a coincidence- Sunday the pregnancy test was taken, - positive. Monday she had a blood test, came on her period and by 7pm the doctors phone her to tell her there are limited amounts of hCG in her blood so its unlikely shes still pregnant because of how small the amounts are. What doctors lab rings at 7pm with blood test results of that morning???