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I have trouble trusting women
Hi all. Here's my story. In the year of 2004 was the worst year ever in my life. I lost my only grandfather, had to put my dog to sleep and went through a horrible breakup and was totally played by this girl. However, i was at fault for some stuff. We dated for a couple of months, then she goes back to her ex.However, like a dummy i am, i still kepted talking to her, holding hope she'll want me back. As it never happend, it got worse and worse and all of a sudden i fell in love with her. I have never been in love before, ever. But she still didnt want to be with me. Let me tell you about her, shes a very sweet girl, tells me stuff like im a great guy, im cute, etc, course i never belived it, i always thought im ugly, i mean heck look at me, enough said. Basically she tells me all this stuff i want to hear. And then she runs off with her ex and gives me false hope. From there on, i lost all self esteem, very convinced im ugly and thats why she broke it off with me. A year later, finally cut off contact with that evil doer. But it didnt matter, i dont trust women. I belive women only care about good looking guys with 6 packs and bad boys. I try to meet women but fail. Im on a dating website and get zero responses.. So thats why im convinced im unnattractive. So then, on facebook i meet this girl, who by the way isnt looking to get in a realionship soon cause she has kids. But says she wants to get to know me. Problem with her, shes also a really sweet girl and tells me im awsome etc.. I dunno what it is, but i have serious doubts about her and i told her because i had feelings for her, we cant hangout anymore. She was saddened by it and says she still wants to hang with me, so i changed my mind and we're still friends. I dunno anymore..I know shes a very busy person cause she has two kids..We still talk on facebook...But i just feel each time i meet someone, they become disinterested.. I dunno!!! Are my looks that bad??I try to take care of myself. Im sorry if i dont look like brad pit. But geeze, why is it women arent into my looks??
Like I said before. My husband if 3 1/2 years doesn't have a six-pack, he always has some 5 o'clock shadow, his hair goes in every direction. However, that doesn't bother me. He can fix most electronic things around the house, he can sing, and play guitar, and make me laugh. I see past his looks and deep into his soul. He plays with the cat and I can see just how much love he has to give.
I wouldn't trade him for fabio, or a buff guy.
We really are an odd pair. I am very pretty and I could have had any guy, but I chose him.
I wouldn't trade him for fabio, or a buff guy.
We really are an odd pair. I am very pretty and I could have had any guy, but I chose him.
You have some serious issues with women. Unhealthy attitude towards them because of two women who just weren't interested. You don't know how to handle rejection and get bitter and angry. You say your mature but I have yet to see the maturity. Maybe you are picking the same type of women and not all of us care about good looks and money. I like a man who makes me laugh and has a good personality. As far as this new girl is concerned maybe she was busy and felt like you were being to pushy with your phone calls and texts. If she has kids she's a busy woman.
we're fake?? how are we fake?
and no we're not all attracted to good looking men or money. my husband is attractive to me...i don't know if he is to other women but to me he is the most amazing man alive. and i LOVE him for who he is. his personality is what made me fall in love with him. do you know how much money he has? nada. he's not rich, his parents aren't loaded. he's a marine. he's rough around the edges, has a crude sense of humor but he's a wonderful man, a terrific father and smart. he knows how to make me laugh when i'm sad or to cheer me up when i'm having a blue day. even on days when we have our fights i still love him more than any other man under the stars. does he have a 6 pack abs? not anymore. is always clean shaven? nope. does it bother me? not at all. he may be getting a "beer gut" but i still love his body. he's just as handsome to me now as he was the day we were married. (i can't say the day i met him since we were only 5, back then he was gross with cooties.) i love the scartchy feeling of his gotee/beard in the morning, his messy hair and his sweats. (he's inactive duty now...he shaves and cleans up when he has to meet with his gunny...) so we're NOT fakes. maybe YOU need to start being pickier with the women YOU choose.
not all women go after the same sort of man. what's attractive to one person isn't to another. are there shallow women out there? yes just as there are shallow MEN out there. and there are also MEN who are gold diggers.
and no we're not all attracted to good looking men or money. my husband is attractive to me...i don't know if he is to other women but to me he is the most amazing man alive. and i LOVE him for who he is. his personality is what made me fall in love with him. do you know how much money he has? nada. he's not rich, his parents aren't loaded. he's a marine. he's rough around the edges, has a crude sense of humor but he's a wonderful man, a terrific father and smart. he knows how to make me laugh when i'm sad or to cheer me up when i'm having a blue day. even on days when we have our fights i still love him more than any other man under the stars. does he have a 6 pack abs? not anymore. is always clean shaven? nope. does it bother me? not at all. he may be getting a "beer gut" but i still love his body. he's just as handsome to me now as he was the day we were married. (i can't say the day i met him since we were only 5, back then he was gross with cooties.) i love the scartchy feeling of his gotee/beard in the morning, his messy hair and his sweats. (he's inactive duty now...he shaves and cleans up when he has to meet with his gunny...) so we're NOT fakes. maybe YOU need to start being pickier with the women YOU choose.
not all women go after the same sort of man. what's attractive to one person isn't to another. are there shallow women out there? yes just as there are shallow MEN out there. and there are also MEN who are gold diggers.
ahaha good one, i know u people are all fake. Its all about looks. Im sorry but, the facts are women are attracted to either good looking men or men with alot of money. True story,. im living proof of it. Im not good looking and i dont make alot of money
i have to say you're attitude is absolutely horrible! you really aren't a bad looking guy. your ATTITUDE is what makes you ugly. the disgruntled, mean look on your face makes you look unapproachable and the way you have your arms folded over your chest indicates self-esteem issues. those things add up. girls don't want self conscious, rude, negative men. you don't need a 6 pack abs and a&f looks to land a decent girl. get into therapy. you have some serious issues.
as far as the new girl goes...maybe she's busy. if the two of you are not dating exclusively then you have no reason to be mad. there is no emotional attachment, no marriage license..nothing that says she HAS to hang out with you. if she doesn't call/text you back simply move on. she's not the only woman on earth.
and i must agree with the other women...you post your problem on a public forum get advice then proceed to tell those who are taking out their time to try and help you and you insult them. if you want to hear what you want to hear whine to your friends. they'll lie to you. go on a public forum and people will not say how horrible women are...especially when they are women.
as far as the new girl goes...maybe she's busy. if the two of you are not dating exclusively then you have no reason to be mad. there is no emotional attachment, no marriage license..nothing that says she HAS to hang out with you. if she doesn't call/text you back simply move on. she's not the only woman on earth.
and i must agree with the other women...you post your problem on a public forum get advice then proceed to tell those who are taking out their time to try and help you and you insult them. if you want to hear what you want to hear whine to your friends. they'll lie to you. go on a public forum and people will not say how horrible women are...especially when they are women.
i wasnty talking about the 04 girl i was talking about the girl i met this year. "the sweet one" She keeps saying she wantys to hang with me, blah,blah. And i tried to call her tonight, so far i havent heard from her. I knew it, and btw, the girl in 04 is another sweet one. all they want is attention, thats is. All women care about is attention from average guys and when good looking super models come, women fall over them, plus the bad boys too. **** women
"None of you all know what your talking about!!!" - why come looking for advice if you refuse to take it on board? You sound as angry as you look in your picture, no wonder you give off negative vibes to women! Women will always be put off by a grumpy unconfident man, good-looking or not.
Done with women?? Because of the 2 women you've met? We are all different, not all women are like them. They're not all just like the 04 girl, you just haven't met Miss Right yet, not all women lead men on then go back to their ex. She has issues herself - switching men around is not what most women do. In my book, once an ex, always an ex.
Done with women?? Because of the 2 women you've met? We are all different, not all women are like them. They're not all just like the 04 girl, you just haven't met Miss Right yet, not all women lead men on then go back to their ex. She has issues herself - switching men around is not what most women do. In my book, once an ex, always an ex.
yea whatever, then explain why she has yet to call me and has acted distant. Girls have trouble being honest about stuff. This is why alot of good men like myself are single because women choose bad boys and athletic guys. My step-mom always said that women are so stupid for dating D-bags. Women are stupid and confused people.. I dont need their ****. Im too mature for the ******* games women play, **** that ****
You know we try to help you and this is the negative reaction we get. Maybe it isn't the way they are perhaps its how you react towards them that's a turnoff. Good luck!
None of you all know what your talking about!!! Once again, the girl i met recently was no different than the girl in 04. All she wanted was attention, thats it. Last two times i talked to her on facebook she seemed distant and tonight i tried calling her house, she wasnt home i was told, so i tried her cell, around 7, no answer i left a message and hasnt called me back since. Well im just gonna take her off facebook. Im tired of these dumb little games women play. And women complain how theres no good guys out there and the good ones are taken? I dont wanna hear about it. Im done with women.
What are you talking about? You are very attractive. I have a boyfriend who doesnt have a body of a god and I still love him to pieces! You are just looking for love in all the wrong places. Relax. Slow down. And enjoy being single and when the time is right fate will intervine and bring your love into your life.
PS-YOU ARE NOT UGLY! WORK ON YOUR SELF ESTEEM!
PS-YOU ARE NOT UGLY! WORK ON YOUR SELF ESTEEM!
I agree with Judy, you aren't a bad looking guy at all...it's just women like a man with confidence, which you are lacking big time. You allowed a woman who isn't even worth your time to make you feel bad about yourself. Life is full of rejection, whether it's in your relationships or your career or friendships, you have to be strong enough to deal with that. She was a woman who obviously liked the attention she got from you but was in love with someone else. It happens, but it's not you with the issues, it was her. Move on! Now you meet a great girl but you push her aside because you can't believe she likes you...well that's not fair that she should pay for your past. She obviously likes you for a reason. I used to tell my good friend this every time she would start dating a guy and then back off when things got too serious because she didn't want to get hurt. I told her, you will never know true love if you don't allow yourself to feel it. Ok, so you get hurt, that's the worst thing that happens, but you will be fine, you will survive that. If you never take the chance you will never know if this was the one for you. It could wind up that he will never hurt you, so at least try. That's the same advice I will give you. The handsomest (not sure if that's even a word...lol) of men can be so unattractive if they lack a personality. Yeah the cute guys are nice eye candy but if they lack humor, or are cocky or care more about themselves than about you, they become less attractive. So keep that in mind.
I think you need to work on your self esteem. Do not focus on your looks so much, I completely agree with rockrose, it's the angry/sad/bored look you have in the pics that is a turnoff, not your actual physical features! You do not want someone who only likes you for your looks anyway, because how can you develop a real true long lasting relationship with someone that superficial? You can't, looks change, and in the long run they don't matter. Yes a way someone looks can attract the opposite sex's attention, but not for long, eventually if that's all they care about, the relationship will end.
A real woman will love you for who you ARE, not for what you look like. Our looks are always changing from day to day, year to year, so stop focusing on your looks. Get a hobby, get some help for your self esteem, and then the right woman will come along when you least expect it and you'll know that she's the one and your past relationships will not matter at all.
A real woman will love you for who you ARE, not for what you look like. Our looks are always changing from day to day, year to year, so stop focusing on your looks. Get a hobby, get some help for your self esteem, and then the right woman will come along when you least expect it and you'll know that she's the one and your past relationships will not matter at all.
p.s. my fiance had a great head of hair when I met him...it's all gone with time, I love him for who he is inside and out and it doesn't matter to me. Life will happen at the right time, so make plans, have fun, enjoy life and when you least expect it, you will meet that beautiful, lovely lady dying to meet you.
Wow, do you have a low self esteem issue. I saw your picture and I thought you were quite handsome, so what's the problem? Also, don't judge all women based on one disappointment or failure. That's life. Life is full of disappointments and failures and what happens is you become wiser, more mature and you learn from the experience and move on. Also, love is simple and natural. It will happen at the right time and when you least expect it. I've learn that if you try too hard, you will end up disappointed, because it's not happening at the pace you want it to happen. I recommend that you start accepting yourself for who you are and surround yourself with good friends, family and a good environment and life will happen. It will fall into place and that special lady is right around the corner dying to meet you, but facebook, websited, etc...your just setting yourself up for disappointment. Invite friends to a movie, dancing, etc....friends will introduce you to friends and you will meet people as you go along, so take your time young man, you have a lot of living and life ahead of you. Life has a way of falling into place, especially with love. Good luck,Judy
Your physical features aren't unattractive, but you look completely off-putting with your angry looks. If these are the pictures you are using on dating sites, there is not the first chance I would approach you, ever. You look angry and bored.
Physically, if you want to be attractive, look relaxed and have a sweet smile. THAT would get you women. As it is, on a dating site I would pass by your picture 100% of the time, because I don't want to sit across the table at dinner with a guy who has the expression you have on your face in these pictures.
Physically, if you want to be attractive, look relaxed and have a sweet smile. THAT would get you women. As it is, on a dating site I would pass by your picture 100% of the time, because I don't want to sit across the table at dinner with a guy who has the expression you have on your face in these pictures.
Yea but i never get told im good looking, ever.. So thats why i assume im so ugly. I just ask, what does it take for me to be a good looking guy? What must i do? Phisically that is
I am betting your low self esteem is the only thing getting in your way. Looks aren't everything. Women do like men for looks, you can't tell me men don't. But when it comes down to it, personality is most important. No matter how unattractive someone is, there is always someone who thinks they are hot, because people have different perspectives on what attractive is. I would keep talking to this girl. You might be wastisng your time worrying about your looks. I wasted my whole 14 years of my relationship thinking I'm fat and ugly and my boyfriend says I'm beautiful and because I'm insecure and get jealous, and every time he threatens to leave I thinks its because I'm ugly, when really he is tired of my attitude. Don't waste your time...lifes too short. Open up again.
To add more to this. Have you ever watched The Simpsons? Homer is fat and not all that bright, but Marge loves him just the same. The same us true in Family Guy is Peter handsome or smart? No, but he has Lois and she loves him.
Find something you are good at and focus on that. If you stop looking love will hit you when you least expect it.
Don't dwell on the fact that you don't look perfect, because believe it or not. Some woman will fall hopelessly in love with you.
Get a hobby. Many women are too obsessed with looks. I consider those types of people shallow.
Find something you are good at and focus on that. If you stop looking love will hit you when you least expect it.
Don't dwell on the fact that you don't look perfect, because believe it or not. Some woman will fall hopelessly in love with you.
Get a hobby. Many women are too obsessed with looks. I consider those types of people shallow.
I'm going to tell you this. I have been married for 3 1/2 years, my husband isn't that good looking. He doesn't have a six pack or rippling muscles, but I love him. I wouldn't want to be with a perfectly sculpted man.
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