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Boyfriend is Whinny and Emtional!n Help!!
Hi, ladies its me again. You guys have offered me so much help w my last few situations and I appreciate :-) I'm back w another prob and just want ur opinions on it.
I think my bf might be over emtional and very sensitive about stupid stuff and its getting very annoying. Mind u I'm 23 & he's 25. Both college graduates & still furthing our educations. Anyway, I was on the phone w my friend and she tells me that she has a class w one of my bf friends cus she saw a pic of the two of them together at a bday party this weekend on fb. I was just like ooo, ok cus I already knew he was going to the bday party. So, it wasn't that big of a deal. My friend and I go back to talking about other stuff.
This morning my bf text me like always when he gets to work and I reply and I simply said that my friend has class w ur friend whose bday u went to. I thought he wqould just be like ooo, ok...well it seemed like he got pissed off!
First he goes off and say my friend his a creeper cus y is she looking at his pics on fb, but she didn't do that it just showed that he was tagged in a pic and showed up on her timeline. Second, he calls her fake and says my friend doesn't even talk to him, but yet she wants to be so nosy and that mutal friends of ours were right about her and how annoying and fake she is. Now that's when I got pissed bc these so called "mutal friends" of ours that we met throug don't even talk to us & they tried to stop him from getting to know me and bad mouthed me and everything. So, I told him y would u listen to anything they say...they r just negative ppl peorid. So, he just said w/e ur friend is fake and I'm done talking abnout it. I told him he was childish and needed to grow the h*ll up cus he is making this situation into something that isn't serious and all she did was say she was in the same freakin english class as ur friend.
Now, I'm mad bc he does that all the time...take stupid stuff and make a big deal out of it. Its to the point where I want to ignore him all together. He acts like a baby! He gets all sensitive and emtional and then tells me I'm just insensitive...yea I'm insenstive to bs! How do I address this issue cus I know he is still gonna be talking about it later today and I'm over it cus the issue is just plain stupid!
I think my bf might be over emtional and very sensitive about stupid stuff and its getting very annoying. Mind u I'm 23 & he's 25. Both college graduates & still furthing our educations. Anyway, I was on the phone w my friend and she tells me that she has a class w one of my bf friends cus she saw a pic of the two of them together at a bday party this weekend on fb. I was just like ooo, ok cus I already knew he was going to the bday party. So, it wasn't that big of a deal. My friend and I go back to talking about other stuff.
This morning my bf text me like always when he gets to work and I reply and I simply said that my friend has class w ur friend whose bday u went to. I thought he wqould just be like ooo, ok...well it seemed like he got pissed off!
First he goes off and say my friend his a creeper cus y is she looking at his pics on fb, but she didn't do that it just showed that he was tagged in a pic and showed up on her timeline. Second, he calls her fake and says my friend doesn't even talk to him, but yet she wants to be so nosy and that mutal friends of ours were right about her and how annoying and fake she is. Now that's when I got pissed bc these so called "mutal friends" of ours that we met throug don't even talk to us & they tried to stop him from getting to know me and bad mouthed me and everything. So, I told him y would u listen to anything they say...they r just negative ppl peorid. So, he just said w/e ur friend is fake and I'm done talking abnout it. I told him he was childish and needed to grow the h*ll up cus he is making this situation into something that isn't serious and all she did was say she was in the same freakin english class as ur friend.
Now, I'm mad bc he does that all the time...take stupid stuff and make a big deal out of it. Its to the point where I want to ignore him all together. He acts like a baby! He gets all sensitive and emtional and then tells me I'm just insensitive...yea I'm insenstive to bs! How do I address this issue cus I know he is still gonna be talking about it later today and I'm over it cus the issue is just plain stupid!
Teko, he did exactly what u said. I told him I couldn't take his child like behavior and if he didn't straighten up that I'm done. This was during a phone convo over lunch. 2hrs later he sends me a text saying he has a surpise for me tm when I come to his house cus he knows he can be a mean boyfriend at times!
Now I'm not getting all excited just yet, but what should I make of this. His he really afarid to lose me and realizes he needs to change. Or is he just doing it to just appease me?
I think he's still gonna act crazy so I'm not getting wrapped up in this little surprise he has prepared.
Now I'm not getting all excited just yet, but what should I make of this. His he really afarid to lose me and realizes he needs to change. Or is he just doing it to just appease me?
I think he's still gonna act crazy so I'm not getting wrapped up in this little surprise he has prepared.
Yea everyone is telling me he has showed u everything u need to know! That I need to not bother w him. I'm getting to that were that just might happen. I'm gonna talk to him later today. Any advice on what to say? If he doesn't change we r over! I'm to mature to be dealing w child like behavior from a 25yr old.
I agree he will not grow out of it and I would see it as a red flag. He gets defensive and in his own way has to diss your friends and tell you how they diss you and thereby hurt your feelings needlessly? Oh Yeah! I would be saying it like I mean it and let him storm out the front door never to return! Who needs that? Life is way too short to always be babysitting someones emotional outbursts, especially when they dont make any sense.
Hmmm, u don't think he will grow out of it. I'm starting to think the same thing. Like his behavior is so outrageous...I think he might be bipolar. I suggested maybe he goes to counseling to help him fig out his emotions...was I wrong for that? He of course got mad.
hmm... that sounds like a difficult situation. In my opinion.... if he is 25 this is not a maturity issue that will change over time... it is something that will never go away.
So if you don't think you can handle it, then it may be time to throw in the towel.
On the other hand, he could have just had a bad day, or had something going on at work, and just ended up trash talking about your friend because he needed an outlet to bent his frustrations.
So if you don't think you can handle it, then it may be time to throw in the towel.
On the other hand, he could have just had a bad day, or had something going on at work, and just ended up trash talking about your friend because he needed an outlet to bent his frustrations.
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If you stay, be prepared to let go of all your friends in order to keep him, do not expect him to attend any gatherings where he has to share you and it will eventually come down to you avoiding them as well just to avoid a fight.
I would put him to the test and see how long before he explodes over something silly again.
Simply matter of factly state your case and let him know his attitude and behavior are irrational and if this is what a relationship is maybe you are not the right match for him. Let him take it from there, and like I said, I would test it to see how genuine he really is or how much he is trying to manipulate to get his own way. My guess is he will do whatever necessary to get what he wants and then when he thinks he has you suckered in again you will be right back where you are now. I think he has no control over how he feels or the way he sees things. Almost a paranoia from your description. Good luck.