Lying

[specialmom]

What do you think?   Can you tell when someone is lying?  When you think they are, when do you choose to confront them or let it go?  How is your internal lie detector?  

[dominosarah]

No, the trust is gone especially if the person is a chronic liar.  Most of them dont even realize they are lying at that point.  I think they sometimes believe their lies.  This guy has said he cant work nights or past 3 on weekends due to taking a "disaster relief" class.  First off there are no classes in the area, 2nd he would never pay for these classes and 3rd his vehicle is in bad shape to be driving 120 miles round trip.  His wife works at one of the fast food restuarants in town so i said to him have you seen the new McDonalds in Mankato(where these classes are per him) and his response was we never go to Kato!!  He still doesnt get it!!!

[specialmom]

I'm big on if things don't add up--  it makes me wonder.  We live in a connected world and you can double check things often too.  And if someone is fibbing . . . is it for sympathy, some kind of benefit for themselves, what is the motive?  

Other people lie to protect themselves, they don't want to get in trouble with their spouse or they don't want to hurt someone's feelings.  

If someone lies to you, do you ever fully trust them again?

[dominosarah]

I have a coworker who only knows how to lie.  If his lips are moving there is a lie coming out.  He also rubs his eyes when it is a good lie!  Confronting him would be pointless as he takes no accountability for his actions.  It is always poor me!  It used to really bug me when someone would lie to my face but now i just look at them and think good story.  I lived a life of lies and deceit for so long and am thankful i no longer live that way.  Trying to keep up with your lies is exhausting.

[specialmom]

I'm exhausted just hearing about this person.  I've known the type . . .  don't get living in a web of lies.