Was he bullied because of his ethnic background or nationality?
I am assuming you all aren't from the US.
I am familiar with Freud, but has he actually been assessed by a Psychologist or Psychiatrist? In other words, did you get him any counseling; did he receive any counseling?
Roots meaning his lineage - traumatic time, he was victimized by a Teacher and the blame syndrome can occur after a bad experience during childhood, according to Freud. He left home at 18 because he did not want to return to his country of birth after my Husband's death.
"His roots" meaning what? "Traumatic time?" I guess I am searching for more detailed information to better respond to your post.
You stated the relationship was ok until he married his partner, but now you say he is suffering from the "blame syndrome." If the latter is true then how could the relationship have been ok before this marriage? The relationship would of been not ideal for a while............since he left home at 18.
As NG said, there is something odd here, I really don't have any idea where we went wrong. From a very early age, he tried to better himself to the point of being a snob, this is not bad thing I guess but I do feel he was embarrassed by his roots. I think he may be suffering from the blame syndrome as he did have a rather traumatic time in his early school life. He left the nest at 18 and never returned, he has always been determined to make a good life.
Agree with NG.............pieces and parts are missing here.
What do you mean when you say your relationship changed after he married his partner?