Please tell me what in the world is she thinking?

[James_x]

I made the mistake to date this girl online. We were very close friends...and she made it clear that she wanted to be more than that. Well, I said yes, and went along with this "distant relationship" for three days before I called it off. She was okay with it, and wanted to still be friends. A few days after we spent innocently chatting back and forth. Now, this girl wrote a poem about how she wanted to kiss and hug "you" and sent it to me. She kept asking me how I felt about the poem. I kept going around the question, saying "you're a good writer" blah blah blah...until she fell asleep and left me hanging. The next day, she tells me that the poem was for a friend of hers to give to her friend's boyfriend. Now she hasn't responded in a while. I've noticed that she kind of seems to ask me personal questions at night, whereas she's just a great best friend in the day. :/ What do you think? I talked to an older woman about this and she told me that being "just friends" isn't going to happen for us. What do you think? Thanks so much:) I'm 14 btw

[Londres70]

What's wrong with just telling her that you aren't interested?  

It would be a bit awkward to try to be just friends after this.  I would cut off contact AFTER you tell her the truth.  I wouldn't recommend ignoring her hoping she gets the hint.  

I would recommend finding other constructive things to do with your time other then online dating or any dating as 14 is just too young.  

[Prizefighter]

No offense, but I don't think you should be dating anyone at 14 years old.  I know your body is going through a lot, but just relax with dating.  Do not worry about this girl.  Just be nice about it and try to avoid talking to her online so much if you are not interested.

[James_x]

I agree. That is why I didn't want to date her. I thought it was dumb. But I felt bad, and she is a close friend. I don't want a relationship like that. And I am not interested in "personal contact."

[specialmom]

Hi there.  I see that you are 14.  Ugh.  In all honesty, online 'relationships' aren't really relationships in the true sense.  I would spend less time online and instead, live a little in the real world.  Do you avoid personal contact for any reason?