You sound like a normal young man, I have a son your age and he is shy and quiet and his is a little different. He refuses to change to fit in and he loves it. The friends he has made are true friends and he has had a couple of girlfriends. However he is a virgin because he doesn't want to be one of those guys who uses women for their own pleasure.
The fact that you are asking this question tells me that you are not happy with playing someone else. I say always be yourself and please do not look at yourself as spoil and cold hearted. This is a horrible time your everyone going from teens and adulthood and you will be fine if you are yourself. You do not want to act like something your note, you want people to remember you as you.
You will be fine and remember you are 18, please do not take things to seriously, have some fun and always work on being better person. Good luck.
Sorry, but your post was a bit rambling, however, this is what I got out of it......should you be yourself OR become something that society/peers expect you to be.
My answer....I don't think you should be too worried about what others have and what they are doing. I believe this is a major mistake both young and old people make. Focus on you and your life.
Sounds like the therapy is appropriate here; for your situation.
So you're on prozac for anxiety and depression.
But there's something else that I'm strongly sensing from your posts - an overwhelming feeling of not belonging. Do your siblings feel the same way?
From what I gather, your family comes from poverty but was able to climb out of it and your parents strongly stressed trying hard to succeed at life and not make any mistakes that would mess it up or bring shame on the family. In my observation that's really not that atypical - I've seen lots of families struggle and succeed and impress very hard on their children that they need to not mess up their opportunities in life.
So I'm curious about your siblings and if they feel as out of place as you seem to feel.
Also, I wonder if you could get good physical exercise in biking or swimming?
Best wishes.
So missmyAngel you say that even though my hormones won't shut the hell up that i should continue being who iam ignore outside influences like the media and dumb people. i know im different...... i know i think different than an average person age; only because i was born in unique kind family. i hate it to this day, but i can't help myself.
i know that this posting is plain dumb compared to god awful other postings but i just wanted to use the internet as a tool.
well since freshman year i was really depressed and eventually turned into anxiey then back to depression. so im on prozac yeaa.... but running long distance and krav maga were a major help of keeping happy but got a stress fracture from it and me being stubborn would do calf raises like crazy so i can get back asap. Unfortunately that caused another fracture on my other bone on the same leg have not done anything intense since then.
In my experience, during highchool I went for the bad boys, the really hot guys.
In the end I would always get hurt by them.
I have now been with an average looking "nice guy" for almost 11 years :)
When they say "nice guys finish last", thats not necessarily a bad thing :)
Because they are usually the ones that girls stay with.
Highschool is full of hormones, and sure these people look like they're happy and in love, when their making out on the street corner (and everywhere else lol) but when the passion and hormones die down, (as it always does) doesn't mean there was anything "real" there, or that they are compatible with each other.
I'm not saying high school sweethearts don't happen, because it does, but more often when the smokescreen dies down that the hormones bring, they find they weren't compatible at all.
I was best friends with my fiance for over a year before we started dating, so we knew each other well, and knew there was something there.
Specifically, why are you seeing a therapist? It's a little hard to understand what you're describing in your post and I'm wondering if you have a diagnosis?