Your biggest question about having a successful relationship after being divorced?

[HappierEverAfter]

My romantic partner and I are each divorced, together for a year, and want to our relationship to get better and better as time goes on -- more connected, passionate and loving. We want to communicate with other couples (who have been in and out of long-term relationships) trying be successful together. In particular, what would you like to learn to be happier in your relationship?

[specialmom]

Hello, welcome to the forum.  I'm trying to think of what I'd like to learn.  Kind of a hard question for me.  I think marriage does evolve.  Things that bothered me previously seem less like a big deal after 21 years together. I guess I could learn how to not take on the bulk of domestic things because I believe I do it better.  Want it MY way. Then I get tired and don't think it's fair I do most of that stuff. But I created the problem myself.  I'd also be happier if my husband really WERE a mind reader and didn't misinterpret what I'm thinking. (he might think the same). :))

[AnnieBrooke]

To really accept that my partner has beliefs I don't like, rather than to wish he would just see the light or to hope he will be change if I present a rational alternative. He will never change his ingrained beliefs or view on life, no matter how well I present a different point of view. I might as well decide that this is OK with me since I love him for other aspects of himself.

Annie
(married 34 years)