Strip Clubs Ok or No way?

[megochick101]

I'm asking this question because me and my husband had a discussion about strip clubs after watching something on the tv the other day(not porno lol). He feels there is nothing wrong with someone going to one, whereas I think that if someone in a relationship goes to a strip club they are essentially cheating on their partner, and I wouldn't let my hubby go under any circumstances. I just wanted to hear from other woman, and men too please,to get some other perspective on the issue.

So how do you feel about your partner going to strip clubs?(without you I should add)

Thanks in advance :)

[megochick101]

It nice to hear everyone's opinions, I would rather hubby not go at all, and as far as i know he has never been to one. but I know he wants to go just to see what its all about since he has never gone, maybe we can go together once, but there's no way he's going by himself lol

[Lucey12]

I voted can go for occasions. Id rather he not go, but then Id be a hypocrite as my aunt took me for my 18th birthday. I wont do it again because I felt I was cheating. He knew about it the whole time, I didnt do anything inappropriate and didnt enjoy it. If I was single I may have enjoyed it but Im in the married mindset that its a no.

So Id rather he not but as long as its not an all-the-time-thing that hes hiding from me or hes having anything beyond watching some girls strip, then thats ok. (im still going to be jealous as I am a very jealous person, but try to hide it.)

[Vance2335]

As a guy who has gone to some in the past I don't see a huge issue with it, because any club where guys actually want to go because the women are attractive the women will not do anything more then dance for the guys. They are not hookers and most places do not condone any type of action like that because they can be shut down.

But for myself I will not go anymore and at bachelor parties I will not have any interaction with strippers. I made a choice to say, I don't want any outside stimulation other then my wife. Just a choice I made and I have stuck by it.

Also just looking at a women is not really a turn on for me, so even in the past when I went with friends I was never that into it. I was more into going to a bar and meeting a woman there where I could get some action. Sounds crude but that was my mind set in my college years.

[teko]

I personally do not have that issue, as my husband is disinterested in them. He feels it is degrading to him somehow and says it is a turn off. But upon reflection, I do not see any difference between going to a strip club, checking out porn on the computer, or home videos for that matter.  I think it says something about the mindset of the man. Being turned on sexually by some stranger grinding on a pole naked? Hoping they will be the one that gets center attention.  As far as the worker goes, they are just there earning a paycheck which in and of itself is sad. Guess, Im telling my age!

[jo929]

I guess I am the odd man out, I would not want my hubby to go to one, it may give him ideas and he may act on them,also i think they are sleezy places, and there are better things to do, and lots more fun  jo

[gokuangel]

I dont like my DH going at all really but i do trust him not to do anything! The reason i got mad is cus he didnt tell me he was going there he said he was going with the guys to drink and they ended up there! Thats what ticked me off more than anything if he had just called and said he was going i would have been more open about it than him showing up at my parents house at 2am with a braclet on and of course i saw it and knew and was ready to punch him out!! But i suppose special occasions are OK, i dont see what the fuss is about anyway i used to work at 7-11 near the strip club and those girls who came in afterwards were not pretty (sorry no offense but in my town its true) they were ugly and big and they had their stretchmarks hanging out everywhere!!