This could be a small thing, but it is not.

[PassionFlower09]

So, we have skype. My husband always tries to control this account, our phones and etc. Now I know why he locks me out of these accounts. I found out the b******ch he has been "helping/having an emotional affair with/ threesome with her jilted mother" (whatever you call their interaction/ relationship) has skype. So I block her on all accounts.

He unblocks her. When I ask him why, he tries to play stupid.Then he actually has a fit. Now this could be a small thing, but my question is , WHY THE HELL WOULD HE UNBLOCK HER IF HE SAW THAT I BLOCKED AND KNOW HOW I FEEL ABOUT HER? When I ask him why he is reacting to my question so badly, he gets even more upset and gives me some speech about him being an adult man Blah Blah Blah. I throw the same crap back at him,and ask him why is he getting so upset? Then he left the house.

People, People , People.  I just left my house. I am done with this SOB. Life is too short. I am attractive, I have a great job, and people who really care about ME!!!! Bump- him. I just can't hear anymore of his lies and his stupidity.

Again I say, this could be a small thing. But seeing that I blocked her and him unblocking her  shows that he does not respect me and my feelings at all. He is just a liar. And in such great degree that he is even incapable to hiding it.  

I am still looking for  a therapist. I work day ours, and it is hard to find someone who works after 5pm. It has been challenging dealing with this on my own. I am ok, a little hurt, but ok. But still angry.  I

My husband has some health issues.Once he got really ill, and the only person he was concerned about was that
b********* (trust me people I know this to be true).

He just put himself on my black list. I didn't want to turn my life upside down (moving, financials and etc), but what the hell...this is life for me at the present time.

What do you think? Pick my battles... I am waging war on unjustice and disrespect.

[imanaddict]

I could not agree more. He does NOT respect you and evidently puts the "B" ahead of your feelings. What kind of marriage is that? You deserve so much better than he's willing to give you. I hate to say it, but I hope you do move on and for good!

[el_em_en_oh]

What they said... kick him to the curb.

[mami1323]

I agree, she has said everything that I would say.  He's not given you anything or any reason to stay with him.  Continuing contact shows where his loyalty lies and it isn't with you.  Don't waste anymore of yourself on him.  If you stay all you will be is angry for a lot longer than you want to be.  Let him have them if they are so important.

[penswriter]

Specialmom is so so so right. Don't waste another moment with this scumbag. It's obvious he has no intentions of breaking it off with this other woman. He's lying and still cheating. Dump him like a sack of week old gym socks!

[specialmom]

You know I only wish you the best.  I hope that you do find someone to talk to on the professional side of things.  

Sometimes making a list of what you would have to do to leave helps you think about what it would really look like.  Then you can think seriously if it is an option or not.

Good luck hon.

[PassionFlower09]

Thanks.

I am not mad.

I think you are correct.

PassionFlower

[specialmom]

Passionflower-------- I've yet to hear an example of your husband trying to move on past the relationship with this other woman.  He clearly is still involved with her and thinks he has every right to be.  He will sneak and lie to do so.  Nothing has changed.  This is not a small thing but more of the same BS from him.

Turning your life upside down?  Well, I agree that is hard.  But I don't think at this point you have much of a life with him.  You to are cohabitating but are not connected on that deep level anymore.  You just exist together.  This is my outsiders point of view.

I think you are wasting your youth, talent, charm and intelligence on him and the longer you stay the more of your life you waste.  Whew.  There I said it and I hope I haven't upset you terribly.  I don't think this relationship is going to get better.  I think you need to leave.  Really leave and start over.  You deserve a man who loves you and isn't doing things behind your back with another woman.  Period.  Honestly, I'd have kicked him out a long time ago.  I'm dead serious.  I'd have drawn the line in the sand a while back.  Her or me and no contact with her if you choose me.  I don't care if he is a grown man or not . . . that does not give him the right to treat his wife like dirt and put another woman before her.  

Okay, boy.  That was rough.  I hope I haven't upset you but I'm thinking that it is time you make an alternate plan for your life.  Peace to you.