Thanks to everyone.
I am still having difficulty.
Lovemykids465- I don't think he gets it. He still keeps those ******* telephone numbers in his phone, which he hides from me. He acts as if I am the one who errored. He was supposed to be my friend, and he treated me this way. Honestly, I want him to be as hurt as I am.
EVERY day is a struggle for me. I am split: I love him and I hate him for this. I don't believe he will stop talking to this person. Right now I am just broken.
I wish I were as fortunate as you lovemykids465. Believe me, I gave him so many changes. I just want my old life back- I don't think it is possible anymore.
Just leave him since its not working out for you or throw every single phone number away or deleted it and tell him to leave the house and don't come back.
I am so sorry. I know your pain. I still feel it at times. I do not know if it will ever go away. Yesterday was a bad day for me too. I called him at work and I could hear her voice in the background. Really pissed me off. ( She works with him, she was trying to get him to sign off on some papers and was mad he was mad that he was on the phone and making her wait she was complaining) Any way bought back the feelings again.Went to a christmas party and found myself watching him to see if he was looking at any other woman ( was not ) but was mad that he was not giving me the attention I wanted ( I know that sounds shallow) any way caused a fight when we got home b/c when home he decided to pay bills and watch TV so I just went to bed. When he came up I threw it all up in his face again. I do not know why. Decided after holiday we would try a trial separation. But he called me crying from work today saying that is not what he wants and he realizes he is not there for me emotionally the way I need him to be. It really was just me being a *****. I have my days but he is patient with me. I did delete all the #'s out of his phone and still check.
If your husband is not remorseful or willing to meet your needs you may need to separate. Maybe it will wake him up but it may not you have to know when it is time to leave. Check out Mort Fetel on line. may help you.
lovemykids465,
Thanks. I know exactly how you feel. I am feeling the same thing. It is so hard. Did you go to counseling? I will check out Mort Fetel.
I am sorry to hear that you husband works with that harlot. I hope everything works out for you. You seem very strong, and you give me strength.
PF
Of course you have a hard time trusting him after what he has done, but have you forgiven him and decided to stay, if so i agree with miami you are going to have to quit bringing it up all of the time, or he will get tired and just leave if you want to leave leave and if you want to stay try not to bring it up, and just hope that he stays a good husband luck jo
Or I could do exactly what he has done.
PF