My moto had always been, never fake it otherwise you're steering him to do the wrong thing, and he'll keep doing that so you'll have to keep faking it. So I never used to.
I've been sleeping with my partner 2-3 years now. It's passionate and he's hot. I love the visual. I can come when he gives me oral but a big thing for me is the mental, I cannot come unless I can quickly switch off. During sex, I suppose I don't easily switch off because I'm trying to make it good for him. I wondered whether it was because I just couldn't come through intercourse so I had a cheeky evening by myself with strictly no clitoris action, and eventually yes, I came. Eventually! I had a small amount of clitoris help but not all the way to the end. So I was pleased with that.
I'll fake coming like 5 times in one sex session because I want him to know how much I appreciate him - I know he's good in bed, it feels bloody amazing, I suppose I've shot myself in the foot because I started faking it, and now it's a vicious circle of having to continue to do so now otherwise I'll seem unsatisfied - when I'll actually be more satisfied because I'm not having to pretend he's making me climax again and again and again. You can tell a guy over and over that climax is not the be all and end all, but they'll never feel that you're okay with that.
Should I just stop faking it? I'm starting to get bored of the sex because I've got stuck in this rut of faking it. He's recently confessed to be a bit bored, even though he's physically very attracted to me, but he'll carry on because I seem to be enjoying it - but I can't exactly turn around and say, 'well actually, I haven't come once'.
I want to change things and sometimes I think the only way is to break away, but that's not what I want (neither of us do).