I'm 18 going on 19 soon, and I have been dating this incredible boy for almost 2 years (1 year and 11 months) and I am crazy about him. We've never broken up but in our time together we have had about two really rough patches and he did go away for college for a year before deciding to come back to go to college with me (he also wanted to be closer to his family and friends, and he would be getting the same education). In those rough patches, it was because I was being controlling and he had doubts about our relationship -- and I fought really hard for our relationship, promising I was not going to be that controlling jerk I was being (it truly was unfair and I was just being stupid because I loved him then as I do now and I didn't mean to be the way I did). Anyways, I made sure he knew how much I loved him and I told him he was just having doubts and that was normal -- I never had them myself though, but my parents have. Well, it worked. I managed to completely throw out that ridiculous stupid personality (only the controlling part, the other parts of me like my humor and everything stayed) and I became more open. He never wanted me to change who I was, he told me, but I wanted to be a better girlfriend for him because I love him and everything -- it had to be done. Anyways, for the past few months all of those terrible feelings have gone away and we have been so happy. Sure, we have a few little fights here and there but nothing like we used to have that was insistent and terrible. We've been on winter break for the past month and it was bliss, I was more happy than I ever been and I basically fell in love with him all over again which I think he has as well. He's really matured into this amazing boyfriend and man. Anyways, last week we went to a show and hung out with his older cousin afterwards who really freaked me out. He said that my boyfriend had been wrong to come back because he didn't give going-away for college a chance, and he talked about how his girlfriend was so controlling and then only started to be cool by barely talking to him for days so that he had to call her. That sent me into a panic! I thought I had to be the kind of girlfriend who was controlling but then stopped talking for days, not calling. I tried it but it drove me insane. I love him and I don't want to go days without talking. But all the things his cousin was saying really upset me and I kept harping on it, telling my mom everything and trying not to show him that I was freaking out, which I have done successfully. It was as though I thought he was thinking these terrible things about me based on his cousin. Then about two nights ago, I went from being insecure about his thoughts to insecure about my thoughts. I thought am I really happy? I was just so tired of being insecure when I had no reason to be. He has shown me in these past few days (he has no idea what I'm feeling) how much he loves me. He says the most perfect things, his laugh and smile makes me smile, and he just shows how much he wants me around. He makes me feel so loved. But now I'm going through this little crisis of thinking maybe we shouldn't be together -- just because I got so bothered and freaked out from before and now we're so secure in our relationship that I no longer am insecure. I guess that whole going from insecure to secure thing and then no longer having to worry about things made me think that something was wrong on my part. I know I'm being insane because I do not want to break up with him or go on a break. I questioned if I wanted to go on a break and at first I thought that may not be so bad but when I thought it could really end I hated it -- I don't want him with anyone else, I want him always and I see him in my future. In fact, when I think well I won't ask for a break but I'll take a few days where I won't call him but if he calls me I'll talk, I hated that too because I don't want to go days without talking to him. That showed me that I don't want a break, but with my constant freaking out I always start the cycle over again and question myself. But anyways, at this moment I'm just going through this OCD phase.. where I calm myself down about this and realize it's all bad thoughts and I think I may want something but I don't really want it and then it comes back and I freak myself out again. I mean, there is no basis for a break. We're so great. I'm just really freaked out. What should I do? He loves me so much and I love him so much too and our moments are great, although in the past two days at times I damper them for myself by thinking this. He makes me so happy and thinking of him makes me so happy -- I can't even not picture him in my life. In fact, just hours ago he called me and said he wanted me to come with his family for his mom's birthday when I didn't know I was invited and it was so nice. I'm just having this sort of block for common sense and control. What do you think?