What is wrong with me?

[debg24]

Ok here goes nothing...I have been with my man off and on for 7 years now..I love him with all my heart my problem is i cant seem to stay with him..Its me, just when i think things are going well i start to make up things in my head like ..is he going to cheat?...am i not good enough?....and then i break things off with him...then when we arnt together i start to think im perfect for him and him for me...he has never cheated and niether have i...i just keep putting things in my head that it has to end for some reason...i was sexually assulted when i was 17 and im now 23....i seeked a theripist back then for a year but my question is that i was wondering if that payed any contribution as to why i cant commit to him??? All i want is some opinions please as to what i should do if anyone knows??

[jml1986]

Your past could very well be the reason why you are afraid to commit. I would urge you to seek counselling again so that you can learn how to let yourself commit to a man that obvisously loves you or he would not have stayed with you as long as he has with all the break ups.

[Mac711]

If only life was eternal we would have all the time to say no and then yes, but time waits for no one.  I say this to you because you are wasting your time by trying to tell the future.  You know there is water in the pool and you have tested it already.  Just dive in and get wet - it is called "LIFE".  Once you are in you can swim or drown.  You are smart enough to know if you are drowning and get out of the pool again, but don't let it be because you didn't try.  It is not fair to your man to keep changing your mind.  Obviously, he has for 7 years so far, so what makes you think he will leave after you two get together, if he has been around for so long now?  Answer that and then you will know.