What is wrong with so many men

[AnxiousGurl]

Ok so I was bored and I came across craigslist's amusing section called "Missed encounters" I think its funny to read some of the posts. You see a ton of random ones, like for example "I saw you today at Walmart, you were in the meat section, i'd like to chat sometime." I mean COME ON! you have to admit its funny.

So then I came across this post titled "Beauty at bus stop" Heres the post

This is a long shot but here goes... I see you walking to a bus stop most mornings with your kids and you sometimes have a little dog with you. You look great in those snug sweats and I'd love to get to know you better (after the kids have gone off to school). I believe you're married and so am I but I'm willing to take a chance. Discretion is paramount. If interested, tie a bandana around your dog's neck and I will take it from there.
If you think you know who this is and are not interested, please don't be offended, I mean no disrespect to you, it's just that I'm very attracted to you and I'm pretty bored at home like alot of other "happily" married people out there .
I look forward to your signal.


I hope his wife catches him. what a scumbag. How many more men out there are like him. Seriously it made me so mad just reading it and I dont even know this guy. It sickens me

[madmac]

Hello Anxiousgurl, thanks for the response but again if as you say the relationship needs work than how can it be a called a relationship. Maybe as a man I'm thinking of this the wrong way, but for me if you have to work at making it work than it can't work. Wow try saying that 3 times fast. My point is that if the 2 people in this relationship have faith and trust in each other than it should NEVER need work. For instance you hear all the time when a person is caught cheating " I love her/him but..." I have no dought that the person male/female does love him/her but they aren't in-love. If they were there wouldn't be any such thing as temptation to put themselves in that situation. They would NEVER do anything to hurt the other. As I said I am 50 years old an have never seen anyone that I would consider being in-love as I see it to be. It seems I use the word never a lot but it needs to be said. My 72 yr old mother said to me that I'll never find what I'm looking for in a relationship that it's just potluck. I've been single now for 10 years and as I look at other "relationships" I'm beginning to think she's right. Apparently most do just settle, Anxiousgurl it's a sad thing when it's considered potluck to find someone that believes in honesty and loyalty. I put a question on the worldwide net to describe honesty and loyalty and got back 1177 e-mails in a month I am not kidding 1177 e-mails. You would not believe how many different versions of those 2 words there are. Silly me I assumed they meant just that "honesty and Loyalty". As for your comment about women spending 4 hrs to get ready so they won't be judged, if their not spending 4 hrs or more getting ready to be looked at and judged on how they look, then why do they do it? I was at a mall recently and these 2 women walked by, I couldn't help but look at 1 of them as she was amazingly beautiful. The other woman spoke up and asked me what I was looking at and I replied to her   her friend. This girl started giving me a hard time about staring at her friend and that she shouldn't be stared at. I looked at this girls  friend an told her that I thought she was 1 of the most beautiful women I'd ever seen and that she obviously didn't need makeup to make her look that way. I turned back  to her friend and said that if the other girl didn't want to be admired than she wouldn't have gone to the trouble of making herself up and apologized to the 2nd girl if I made her seem uncomfortable then walked away. Women don't spend time getting ready when they go out if their not interested in getting looksed at or judged.

[heatherlynn22]

ya know i go on craigslist ALL the time (all the hot nightclubs and bars post for their bartenders there and i'm trying to get back to working weekends....) i've always wanted to look and get a good laugh but never have. lol. i think i'm gonna go read some now.

[AnxiousGurl]

To madmac, EVERYONE is different, both men and woman, woman dont like rejection either, maybe thats why they take "4hrs to get ready" so they wont be judged by a man, who is judgemental, possibly you, maybe not you. The point was, why do men AND WOMAN, not just men ok, take time out of their so busy lives to jeopordize their relationship and make a stupid post on craigslist that noone will ever read. Its sad. Some are fake some are real, some are unhappy in their relationship, if their so unhhappy get the help, (Sorry but some relationships CAN work if both people are willing to make it work) Relationships have their ups and downs, but if you purposely go behind your spouse's/boyfriend or girlfriend's back to find something else, thats like cheating, its like a stab in the back. get out or make it work. thats all i was saying. thanks for the input

[madmac]

One more word that I would like to add to the most misused words in any language is "complicated" people use this word when they don't want to explain a situation. LIFE isn't complicated.

[amanda__nichole]

whats funny is how many of them really think the person with whom they are crushing on is going to randomly go on to CRAIGSLIST and then think hey thats me! haha ya know? i mean..its soo funnny!!!!!

[madmac]

Is this world gone mad? To Anxiousgurl, your statement about "once a cheater always a cheater" not being true because people make mistakes is absolutely incorrect. Mispelling your name on an application is a mistake, cheating is NEVER a mistake. There is no excuse for cheating, a person does it because he/she wants to then they make the excuses afterward. And it's been my experience that the majority do it again. Someone commented that most all married couples contemplate or phantasize about being with someone else, that's not true either. I was married for 22 yrs and she cheated on me at least 4 times yet not once did I think about being with anyone else. Also the statement was made about a man's ego, let me say for the record that a woman's ego is worse than a man's will ever be. eg: A man walks into a bar sees a lady sitting there he decides to hit on her, she rejects him he walks off calling her a dike or whatever awhile later you see him hitting on another. Same scenario only its a woman, she hits on him gets rejected, she'll keep at him till he gives in, then she'll most likely walk away. Why because women hate rejection more than men. After all men don't take 4 hrs to get ready to go out like women do why because they want to be looked at. EGO. As for the cheating, men do it because for the most part their pigs which is why their always in trouble as they think with the wrong head. You women don't make it any easier, your always trying to change who he is. You can deny it all you want but it's true. I don't know one man that hasn't apologized for something and have no clue why. My 10 yr old neice said something to her dad a few months ago that astounded me. Her mom and dad were bickering about something and her mom walked away mad, she went to her dad and said "daddy you should say your sorry' he figured he'd done nothing to say he's sorry for but he asked her why and she replied 'it will make her happy'. Why is it that the men are the one's that 95% of the time say their sorry? Reason to keep the peace, I myself would NEVER say I'm sorry just to make her happy. Also the statement about relationships needing work, if it does theres no hope for it, All a relationship needs is honesty, loyalty, companionship, a little compromise, and above all else being in-love. Theres a big difference between being in-love and loving someone. It amazes me how these simple things are twisted to fit whatever a person male/female is looking for. You know honesty, loyalty, fiendship, love, and confused are without a dought the most misused words in any language. If you truly are in-love with someone, nothing and no-one can come between you. As far as being in-love goes if your with someone for 70 years and you look down at that wrinkly mass of flesh and can say to yourself "damn I love this person" then your in-love