why the lowered labido?

[leilo]

My boyfriend and i have been together a little over a year. He is 26 and i am 21. In the first few months of dating, the sex was abundant sometimes even 2-3 times a day. (rarely) So what has happend to us now? We live together, we arent married or engaged, we both work.. but the sex has gone.. maybe once - if im lucky twice a week! I dont know if its a problem with him, or if there is something he isnt telling me on his mind. He is a huge talker - specially around his friends - and loves to make himself look like this sex god.. when infact when it comes to the bedroom he is the one that always has a headache or is tired. Is this normal? does he have a problem? When i try to get him in the mood, he shoots me down with excuses why he doesnt want to have it, it hurts and many times i get so angry i have to leave the room or i just roll over and get emotionally upset. He has had a abundance of girls in the past, most of them i know and still have to see around and put up with him talking to them... If he had such a good sex life, is it possible there is something wrong with me? Another thing that makes me want to scream is when we do eventually have sex - he is too quick and its normally over within 2-5 minutes, which frustrates me all the more! Is it him, Is it me? Is this normal and is there anything that can be done to bring back his labido?

[jo929]

You are just 21, have you lived long enough to really know if this is the man you want to spend your life with, sit back and think do i want to live with this man the rest of ny life, or am i ready to move on, am i happy am i content or do i want to see more of life once you marry it is for life   luck  jo

[Judy246]

Twice a week is considerered good now a days!  You live together, so this is just a sample of what happens when you get married and comfortable with each other. If he works, he's just tired. Ask him directly, but 2-3 x's a week is considered normal.