thank you guys for the info! I wrote u an email specailmom it has alot of info so sorry if so long but i see you have that purple flower thingy so you are proably the best one to write it to!
And mayflowers i was kinda scared to google the word asexual lol I didnt know what you may think i was lol But i see now that that could possibly be it steming from past experiences and how iact now that id rather be by myself and i make myself more happy and enjoy it more by mysself then actaully acting it out with a partner could fit very well! Thnks again!
you could be asexual. nothing wrong with that.
Well, sexual feelings can be tricky. You don't need to answer this here . . . but I wonder if you've had any sexual abuse in your past. Once we become an adult, people react in two ways after sexual abuse. They either are overly sexualized or they find it hard to be initimate with a boyfriend/husband. They do things subconsciously to push them away (many gain significant weight, for example). So, if anything like that has ever happened to you, I would strongly suggest some counseling to sort it out.
If that is not the case and this just pertains to your boyfriend, well sure. Intimacy is often a barometer to the health of a relationship. No sexual feelings torwards him equals the relationship isn't going well. You are a young woman. You should be happier than this in a relationship anyway. That is just my opinion. If you still want to work on the relationship even with this red flag------- then, I'd start couples counseling. It may or may not save it. But I usually say that if you feel that way while dating, I wouldn't take the relationship forward. Marriage is hard hard work. You need to have solid ground in the dating phase to have the best chance of a successful marriage. goodluck