update !!

[vivi2013]

after all we talked he told me he loves me and he doesnt want to be away from this , that he never got so much att from anyone , he is so happy when he comes home cuz he knows i will be here waiting happy to see him and he loves that i will be all sexy looking for him that not many women will do that for a man , he told me he loves do way we make love, he was telling me how he doesnt want to be away from our family and how he understands that whatever he was doing is bringing problems into our relationship and to just give him some time to proof to me and gain my trust .. ! he told me that he knows its his fault that i dont trust him .. anyways after hearing all this from his mouth i wanna really believe is all truth you know .. and try to pass over what happened and move on becuz i really love this man even thou he has his faults he is amazing with me and my 3 kids from a previous marriage ! i guess im afraid of another woman having what i have with him , he treats me so good and caring. he has this bubbly personality and very good looking handsome black guy , well ladies what should i do ?!?

[vivi2013]

well when he is with me he treats me really nice he is always on top of my needs, i could ask him for anything no matter at time he goes ahead and does it , he is always saying things for our future like when the kids get older or when he takes us to bahamas to meet his family , he puts a picture of me on his phone screen at tell me he shows to his people at worku all the time , i tried to break up with him so many times and he tells me no ! he always says that one day we gonna look at this and be like wow we made it !!
like he is always planning far ahead .  

[specialmom]

Well, after some things that have happened, totally trusting him takes time.  Sure, you have an inner voice inside of you  But do his actions now say different?

What does he say about his future with you?

[vivi2013]

i guess what i wanna say is even tho he tells me all that i still look at him and doubt .. its so frustating .

[specialmom]

I think he sounds like he loves you and you have a child together so I would just work on building a super strong foundation.  It sounds like things will work out fine.  Try not to let insecurity come into play.  I've been married many years now.  I'm not always the sexiest thing in town but I'm confident in the love my husband has for me and the bond we have.  Work on your bond so that as your relationship goes through the inevitable changes, you will have that to lean on.  

peace and luck!!