Would u sue if your ex or bf gave you and STD/STI?

[Artemis04]

I thought the guy I was seeing was being monagamous with me but he was not. He was lying to me and was seeing me and his ex/baby mama at the same time. Well she told me he has HPV/cervical cancer/warts, which he gave her awhile back that I have now been exposed to. My mom and my best friend want me to sue him if I come back positive for it. All because he did not tell me he had it and knowing he did and put me at risk. Also, he stated to his ex that he did not care that he may have given it to me. I do not know if I have a legal leg to stand on to be able to sue him for giving me HPV if I come back positive. Personally I want his pen&^ to fall off and for him to rot in hell. But would you sue someone for giving u a STD or STI?

[mami1323]

Not everyone has good intentions, you have to enter into relationships very carefully.  If it walks like a duck and talks like a duck, then it is a duck and that's what we all saw about this guy.  You were blinded by his "talk" and couldn't see what we all could and that's only because were weren't emotionally involved.  Sometimes we have to take a step back and see what others see in order to get the full picture.  We have all been victim to it.  Good luck and try your hardest to get this man out of your life.

[Artemis04]

Well maybe I should have not slept with him, but I did. It was not like I was planning on sleeping with him right out....I waiting 2.5 - 3 months before I did. We were just having a good evening...dinner, movie, ect and it happened. I did not plan on it, but it happened. Maybe that was not enought time...maybe I should have waited 3 years but it is what it is.

[Artemis04]

I went to the dr and he said that I seem to be ok and he does not believe I have anything but I do not get my real results back until later this week. Also, I am getting the Guardasil shots.

[Artemis04]

Well she said she is giving him another chance after what he did. She has not had the second baby yet, she is 2 months pregnant. Well I was niave to believe him, but I did. I honestly try to think good in people. I did not lie to him about my intentions but he lied about his. I probably should have cut him loose at like month one or two, but he said how he was ready to move on with his life with me and how he cared about me, ect. He seemed sincere in what he said but as I see now he was not.

[mami1323]

I wasn't promiscuous either and contracted it from my ex and we were in a long term relationship.  Doesn't mean he cheated on me, he could've gotten it from someone before me.  HPV is so common and I have never had an outbreak of genital warts or anything like that.  I just have regular paps done.  My friend who was married for years and only had one other relationship (7 year) was recently diagnosed with it.  I have another friend who was just diagnosed with it and was in a 7 year relationship as well.  So you are not alone.  Like adgal said, read up on it.

[mami1323]

One other thing that I have to say.  It's sort of an "I told you so" kind of comment but most of us on here heard your story from the beginning, gave you prior warning to what we thought this man was doing and you said yourself you were not going to allow yourself to get that emotionally involved.  We had recommended you cutting him off completely and you said - no I want to try and remain friends with him and if it doesn't work out than at least I will not have let myself get that emotionally involved.  Now you talk as if he was an ex-boyfriend and he did you so wrong.  Sweetie, it was only months of your life, not years, no children invested in this.  I'm not saying you deserved this but you went in pretty much with your eyes open.  I feel more sorry for the girl who has been played by him for years and has 2 kids from him.  You need to just let it go and walk away.  I'm sorry you might have contracted STD's from him but learn something from it and move forward.