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Would u sue if your ex or bf gave you and STD/STI?
I thought the guy I was seeing was being monagamous with me but he was not. He was lying to me and was seeing me and his ex/baby mama at the same time. Well she told me he has HPV/cervical cancer/warts, which he gave her awhile back that I have now been exposed to. My mom and my best friend want me to sue him if I come back positive for it. All because he did not tell me he had it and knowing he did and put me at risk. Also, he stated to his ex that he did not care that he may have given it to me. I do not know if I have a legal leg to stand on to be able to sue him for giving me HPV if I come back positive. Personally I want his pen&^ to fall off and for him to rot in hell. But would you sue someone for giving u a STD or STI?
You would have to prove that he knew he had this also the ex would have to testify for //you, because if she does not you have no proof, that he knew, also you had consented sex lots luck jo
Well she said she would testify for me that he has an std and gave it to her. I do not know if it is possible to I would have to consult an attorney. Thanks for your luck.
you're going to sue? really... how's that going to help the situation? is it really worth your money, paying attorney fees, etc.? I don't see the point.
You may want to research HPV.
You can be having monogamous sex with a man who has had a previous partner with HPV, and he can give it to you. It's not like he has to run back and forth and back and forth and back and forth to give you HPV.
If you knew he had a prior girlfriend who he left with his baby to be with you, you already should have known you were at risk for HPV.
If you can somehow prove you had no idea that he had any prior sexual partners, and that in fact he was very convincing that he was a virgin when you met, you might stand a tiny chance of winning.
As it is, if you thought he had sexual contact before, you should be aware he can give you HPV.
You can be having monogamous sex with a man who has had a previous partner with HPV, and he can give it to you. It's not like he has to run back and forth and back and forth and back and forth to give you HPV.
If you knew he had a prior girlfriend who he left with his baby to be with you, you already should have known you were at risk for HPV.
If you can somehow prove you had no idea that he had any prior sexual partners, and that in fact he was very convincing that he was a virgin when you met, you might stand a tiny chance of winning.
As it is, if you thought he had sexual contact before, you should be aware he can give you HPV.
There is more than the hvp...lets put it this way his ex and I believe he was sleeping with more than us, which we did not know about each other until last week.
Were you guys virgins? I looked up HPV and it says most men never have symptoms sohow do you even know he was the carrier? I'm kinda curious on this one! No opinion but somehow part of the story is missing?
You can not sue over a STD. You took the risk and had sex with him.
The only thing that has ever been brought to court is someone with HIV knowingly infecting others. HPV is not going to kill you.
The only thing that has ever been brought to court is someone with HIV knowingly infecting others. HPV is not going to kill you.
I am married. Vows taken, promises made, whole nine yards. I have agreed to be faithful and live with this person for better or worse till death do us part. Based on that scenario, you betcha! Because he would have violated everything we stand for and broken a contract. A legal one.
However, if you are lying down with someone you are not married to, and you both are free agents, then your expectations are unrealistic to assume he is not going to step out on you. He was with someone before he met you and will be with someone else after you. You have in essence agreed to share your sexuality. I do not believe under those circumstances you would get vary far in court. Save your money. The only one I know of which would be punishable by law is if someone slept with you and had HIV and knowing so went to bed and gave it to you. That is the same as taking a gun to your head. A death sentence so to speak.
However, if you are lying down with someone you are not married to, and you both are free agents, then your expectations are unrealistic to assume he is not going to step out on you. He was with someone before he met you and will be with someone else after you. You have in essence agreed to share your sexuality. I do not believe under those circumstances you would get vary far in court. Save your money. The only one I know of which would be punishable by law is if someone slept with you and had HIV and knowing so went to bed and gave it to you. That is the same as taking a gun to your head. A death sentence so to speak.
You barely knew this guy and you were having unprotected sex. That's your fault just as much as it was his. Morally, he should have told you but he doesn't have to. I know that someone can be arrested if they were infecting others with HIV and they knew they had it. HPV is not deadly, if you have had at least 2 sexual partners in your life, most likely you have it. It can remain dorment in your body for years. You could've had it even from a previous partner. So there is nothing you can do about that. Take this experience as a lesson learned. Use protection.
You would have to prove without a reasonable doubt that he gave it to you. That means doctors, labs, attorneys, money, time off work if applicable, witnesses. Is it worth it? Maybe, but he has to live the rest of his life knowing what he did. His conscience is his jail.
His ex was the one that said that I should sue him. Because he knowling has been giving out stds......HPV (gential warts), Chlyamidia, ect. which he gave her and he was sleeping with us both at the same time. I dont think I am going to sue if I do or dont have anything. I went to the dr and am waiting for my test results. He does have to live in is own hell.
I agree that he might not have a conscience now, but it will catch up with him and I believe in Karma. Everything in the dark is exposed. I hope all will turn out ok for you. Also, I recommend to stay away from the ex.
I probably should stay away from the baby mama/ex, but me and her have no ill will toward each other. We both have talked and have realized what a dumb *** he was for using us and being a lying *** dog. I just feel bad for the situation she is in with him....baby and one on the way and all - which are so precious. She has a good heart, hell she told me about the stds, because he was not going to be a man and do so. I do not have a problem talking to her, I just don't think her and I ought to be too close after what has happened. But we are on a need to know speaking terms, so to speak.
I think you both should dump him and warn him that for his sake you better not have any STD's or you sue him. That way he will think twice and be on notice that you are aware he has a STD and can contact the police and tell them he is have unprotected sex with a desease. It can get him arrested.
I am not with him anymore....he lied and broke my heart and I do not want to be the other woman. Well the baby mama is still with him lol......he begged her to stay and she did for the sake of the baby and the one on the way. Well he has tried to call me since he has been busted but I did not answer my phone. He hurt me badly and I want nothing to do with him right now or at all.
I don't see any legal leg for you to stand on. It was consensual sex. Possibly contracting an STD (or getting pg) is part of the risk. Even if you could prove he gave it to you knowingly I don't see how you would win a case. You didn't use protection, nor did either of you get tested before having sex.
Plus HPV is common. HIV is a different story. If you were married to him, that would be a different story too.
I was std tested back in december 2008, and he was the first person I had been with since I was tested. I do not sleep around with people if that is what u are insenuating. As for my ex boyfriend, I trusted him and maybe I was being niave in doing so. It is what it is and I cant go back and change anything. I do not plan on suing or anything, my best friend and my ex's baby mama suggested that I should sue him for spreading stds.
You could still have contracted HPV from a relationship before him. It can lay dormant in your body for years. So you can't prove it was this last guy. Just move on with your life. Take care of your health and let him go.
I find it curious that his ex thinks you should pay for a lawyer and sue but hasn't done so herself if she believes so strongly that there is a case... which I am in agreement with other posters who don't think you have one. You don't say anything about confronting him on this matter, so to my knowledge you are just going by the word of his ex that he even was sleeping with her, and if he was - how did she know about you unless she was sleeping with him knowing he was seeing you? This is all very complex. In the end, I would not recommend pursuing anything legal because it would be a waste of money.
Please reread what I wrote and tell me where I insinuated that you were sleeping around? I merely stated that unprotected sex is a risk. You risk getting pg and your risk contracting an STD. It was consensual. That means you both agreed to have sex (willingly) without protection. That also means you take on the responsibility of whatever unprotected sex brings.....including STD's. There's no grounds for a lawsuit. And don't read too much into what people write.
I did go by my ex's place to confront him and he knows that his baby mama told me about the stds. He had nothing to say and was not at all in the least ashamed of having genital warts or chlymidia and spreading them to people. All he seems to do is care about himself. He knows I went to the dr to get examined and tested.
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