aghh, feeling down :(

[Link004]

This girl i liked, we met on new years and, just took things slow, only friends at this time, which is cool i wouldnt want to jump into anything soon.. Well now she wants nothing to do with me. I was talking to her on the phone and i tried to joke around with her (not meaning to cause any harm or whatever) and she accused me of making her feel stupid. Course i apologized, but it wasnt good enough. She said she dosen't want to talk to me anymore, called me a douche. Then i told her, "i got a better idea, instead of being a total drama queen, get a job and move out of your parents house for crying out loud.. Your almost 30 and still living at home?" Give me a break. Im 28 i have two jobs and i have my own place. I dont have time for people in that situation. Anyway, she cried when i told her that and hung up. Questions are....

1. I shouldnt feel so depressed considering we havent had a realionship or whatever, but i kinda am, how can i get over this? I know i can do a whole better, its just that this was the first time in 3 years that i met a girl that actually gave me a shot.

2.  Why is it women are so sensitive? When i was jk around, again i didnt mean to cause harm, but in her mind, she thinks i tried to make her feel stupid. That was never my intent. I joke around with my female friends all the time and they don't object.  What did i do wrong here??

[Link004]

alright, im to the point of enough is enough with plentyoffish Im confident that i have a good profile, but still zero luck. Who knows what gives.. Has anyone experinced speed dating?  I think its kinda cheezy, but im up to try new things.  

[Link004]

I didn't know churches have singles meetings? Do you know where i can get info for that?

[jo929]

your remark about us not not meaning what we said is definatlynot right we say what we mean whether it is good or bad have you been on the forum long you will find out we are not kind but truthful as we see it  i guess its time to keep quiet girls give him heck LOL  jo

[imanaddict]

The self confidence comes from within. It all starts with how you feel about yourself. For instance when I am having a good day, it shows. I show it by smiling at people and saying hello to strangers. A smile goes a LONG way and the smallest things can brighten someone else's day. Test yourself tomorrow and wherever you go, smile and say hello to every stranger you come in contact with and see what happens.

As for approaching girls, like penswriter said, just do it. You never know until you try! If they give the vibe of "no" don't let it get you down and try again with the next one. Don't be shy! All you need to watch out for is a wedding ring on her hand. If you don't see one, go for it. Once you start talking to her, pay her a nice compliment and if the conversation goes well, ask her for her number.

You can pretty much tell when a girl is into you by how she acts. If she's smiling and looking you directly in the eye when talking with you, you're probably in. If she's being short with you and turns her back, that's going to be a no.

[jo929]

why do you not try meeting someone at church they have singles meetings. i really do not think meeting sight unseen is a good idea try  to go bowling, there are lots of places to go, but do not get involved at the bars, oh by the way beauty is on the inside of a person and not on the outside, also when a women says something like this one did try biting your tounge, and say i am sorry if i hurt your feeling, and thenafter she gives you the tongue lashing just bite your tongue and say well i am sorry you feel that way have a good night try tack you get more flys with sugar than vinigar i used to have a sassy tongue, but as i grew older i tried tack, and it worked,. now as i am getting older and could be your granmother i feel like i am getting sassy again, not a good thing reminds me of my dear o;le mom who has long been gone she had a verysharp tongue all of her life, she went to the dr once and he was talling her what was wrong and he made the mistake of saying something about her age he said when you get old, and he should have used tack and said as we get older, anyway she said right quick well doc you are no spring chicken yourself also beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, i think you worry to much some day this lady will come by and she will be just right for you so hang in there penswriter gave good advice they have singles meeting a lot of places quit trying to change yourself into something you are not just be a little nicer with the combacks  good luck  jo

[penswriter]

not second guessing yourself, not stuttering (saying um, uh, er, well, i guess, i suppose...those sorts of words), holding your head up, making eye contact, even smiling. smiling is a big thing. working out will be a confidence booster as well. being healthy is a good way to feel good about yourself.

try not to worry about approaching girls. just do it. what's the worst they'll do? say no.