asian & western relationships

[bebs04]

Hi, I am a Filipina woman 26 year old and living with a 57 year old Norwegian man. We've been living now for five months. I have a problem with him because we quarrel a lot, mostly about simple things. I am very religious and goes to church every Sunday. He doesn't believe in God and next life after death.  I try to avoid talking about religion because we will only fight. Sometimes he's nice, sometimes he's not. He always curse like "**** you", "**** that", "******* ****". When he curse or yell at me, I always say " Could you pls. lower your voice or please don't curse?" and he will say " "What's wrong with it? **** that" I mean this is really quite a shock with me since I was brought by conservative parents. Another thing is that he smokes hash and I told him that he should stop and then he gets angry again. I love the guy so much but he hurts me with his words all the time. I cry when I cannot take it anymore and go out of the house for a few hours. He thinks that most asian women go to Europe just to catch a rich guy, and I think that is really rude if you are living together right? What do you think about it? I don't even ask him to buy me things. I don't even ask for money while we are living together.

[Judy2468]

Wow do you not have anything in common with this guy. A church goer and an atheist. That alone would make me run for the door. I'm a practicing Catholic who goes to Chuch every Sunday and I would never socialize with an atheist (that is my personal opinion,not shared by all). He is verbally abusive, does drugs...smoking hash is a illegal drug and cultural moral values are completely different.

You are both not compatible...run as fast as you can right out the door and don't look back!

[bebs04]

Like butterfly said, maybe it's more of a personality clash?? My bf and I are both scorpions. Both have strong personalities. But the thing is, I am trying to be submissive to him just to avoid a fight. There's another thing, we don't engage in sex anymore. But I always satisfy him. I really feel bad about it but you know I am just trying to work things out for our relationship.

[iam1butterfly]

It's interesting that you title your post "asian & western relationship" suggesting that maybe the problems lie in cultural differences. But, I don't think that it's that at all.
It's not even a generational difference or a contrast in belief systems.
It's more of a personality clash... and, this man sounds totally wrong for you.
Realize also that this is only 5 months of living together. The worse may be yet to come.

[jo929]

I agree with Teko, why are you living with someone like that, he does all of the things you dissaprove of and he is so much older than you, you sound like a nice person, you can do better   luck  jo

[teko]

I think you are not compatible at all. It would seem you have absolutely nothing in common except the roof over your head. Your wasting your life.