cheating husband

[debdeb45]

My husband works on the oil rigs. Anyway he asked me to come with him this time I forgot the cord for my laptop and asked him if I could use his he said go ahead anyway when I opened it his email was open and I saw a email from a bunch of sex sites one was some place called Milf  it said here is your username and password I clicked on the site and he had a profile not a paid one it was gross  anyway I confronted him about it and he tried to blame it on me said he thought I was not happy typical man I just don't know what to do he started crying said he was sorry and that he would never do anything ever again to hurt me the way he did and swore he never had sex with anyone I just am having a hard time trusting him I don't know if I ever can please help this happened a month ago

[sadi12]

its your family problem. but say one thing that solve it ownself by turn .

[Londres70]

Agree with Tink.  

Are you having major problems in the marriage?

To me it doesn't matter if he paid or not........he still was checking the site out.

His problem-solving skills aren't the best and then he blames you for this poor choice he made?  This isn't a "man thing," but a "him/your husband" thing.

[Chima7]

My ex boyfriend used to register on dating sites. Notice I said EX. Yea, that's how I handled that situation! He's married with 2 kids now and is still just as big of a douche as he ever was, so, Yay Me for getting rid of him when I did!

[Life360_Dave]

Hi also, I see this as a social and natural problem, not so much with him, but an issue with males in general.
In the animal world when the female wants to have sex (to have a baby) they give off a scent that makes the male attracted to them. The males urge is brought on by this other wise they are just out there being animals.

With humans, the female doesnot give off a scent so the males entire middle years life is lived with heightened sexual drives.
Depending on the males life, dictates self control and with him being away on oil riggs and viewing sites your mentioning, is a way of letting loose of the inherent sexual drives.
He did not sign and pay to join but appears just doing silly childish things brought on by his natural urges and couriosity.

In the entire spectrum of males, i would guesstimate that 99% of them have done similar to what your husband has or at least thought about doing it.

I would just tell your husband to grow up and stop being silly.

[EyesAqua]

my husband did the same thing he tries to blame everything on me his unhappiness him having two affairsI have found porn sites after porn site after dating site he still denies it I found them linked to his email his usernames his phone numbers he still denies it. I have found 3 to 4 **** buddy sites that has his profile is having a child not living at home being muscular brown eyes brown here all of those things are not just listed in your phone or your computer and he still denies it that was him doing it I'm just having a hard time letting it go together 16 years old habits are hard to break but slowly I'm getting them broken now he's put a lock on his phone he thinks that's going to help me he's crazy. over the years he's made me feel like I'm ugly or something I'm having a hard time getting back in but I have been telling me I'm beautiful all the time on Facebook I need just to let him go. I caught him having two affairs at one timehe goes to porn sites I've asked him to stop for 90 days to prove his love to me but he can't you can't not look at them.

[TTinKKerBBell]

With all due respect,

The comment that He thought You were unhappy is kinda, sorta placing blame on You for what He did.  If He thinks You are unhappy He absolutely knows the solution for that is NOT an online dating site!!  Whatever would that have to do with making You happy again?? (sarcasm intended!!)

If You want to rescue the marriage, I would insist on counseling,  He needs to learn specifically what He needs do to repair Your faith and security,

GoodLuck

[specialmom]

Hi there.  I'm very sorry this has happened.  it does chip away at trust when you get info like this.  Disappointing that he tried to blame you rather than owning it.  BUT, he did say something telling---  he didn't think you are happy.  How's the marriage overall?  Would you two benefit from marriage counseling?