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how can i get my partner to be intimate with me again?
I am 5 months pregnant and throughout the entire pregnancy I think my boyfriend and I have been intimate about 5 times. Before we were ttc we were intimate everyday maybe a couple times a day if we were lucky and had the chance (we also have a 5 year old).
I have expressed my anger about it to him, I have shown my sadness about it, I have tried doing all the housework so he doesn't have to do it, I have let him sleep in AND take naps, I have cooked him his favorite meals, I have tried putting myself together (dress and makeup), u name it I've tried it. I have even simply talked to him calmly about how important it is to me and how it makes me feel (unwanted, unattractive, unloved). Still he doesn't have much of a response to all that and always makes excuses of time and tiredness no matter what. I don't bug him about it either except maybe once a week when I ask him if we can be intimate that night and he turns me down always.
A few days ago he finally agreed to at least just please me. I was excited and anxious all night. Then he got home, and he never initiated anything! I was beyond annoyed and he knows I still am yet doesn't care to fix it. What else can I do??
I have expressed my anger about it to him, I have shown my sadness about it, I have tried doing all the housework so he doesn't have to do it, I have let him sleep in AND take naps, I have cooked him his favorite meals, I have tried putting myself together (dress and makeup), u name it I've tried it. I have even simply talked to him calmly about how important it is to me and how it makes me feel (unwanted, unattractive, unloved). Still he doesn't have much of a response to all that and always makes excuses of time and tiredness no matter what. I don't bug him about it either except maybe once a week when I ask him if we can be intimate that night and he turns me down always.
A few days ago he finally agreed to at least just please me. I was excited and anxious all night. Then he got home, and he never initiated anything! I was beyond annoyed and he knows I still am yet doesn't care to fix it. What else can I do??
I've been there, and I think you need to leave him alone about this. : (
It sounds like he's like my husband, and finds pregnancy a REAL turn off. We had also had a miscarriage, so my husband was both turned off AND afraid of hurting the baby, so we didn't have sex much at all while I was pregnant.
I don't think it's helpful in a relationship, to demand sex from a man who doesn't want to. I think you could head down the path toward sexual dysfunction on his part.
Maybe you could do other intimate things - like candellight conversations, long walks together, etc.
Best wishes. This too, shall pass.
It sounds like he's like my husband, and finds pregnancy a REAL turn off. We had also had a miscarriage, so my husband was both turned off AND afraid of hurting the baby, so we didn't have sex much at all while I was pregnant.
I don't think it's helpful in a relationship, to demand sex from a man who doesn't want to. I think you could head down the path toward sexual dysfunction on his part.
Maybe you could do other intimate things - like candellight conversations, long walks together, etc.
Best wishes. This too, shall pass.
I'm not trying to get back with my ex...I just can't help but wonder how he's doing every once in a while.
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