help!

[babyC_1]

My husband just told me he was unhappy with his life period and for me not to  get mad. That he wishes he could just pack up by his self and leave for a week and not look back. What should I do?

[specialmom]

That's really hard to hear from our significant other.  It scares us that they might really leave, worries us in regards to how they feel, and frightens us that there is something wrong with them such as  clinical depression.

This is a good time to really try to communicate.  He says he's unhappy and 'wants to leave for a week'.  Ask him what is going on.  What is he upset about?  What would a week away do?  What can you help him with?  Would it help to talk to a doctor to see if he is depressed?  (depression is very treatable).  

Maybe some time on his own to decompress would be good.  Not a week but maybe a night?  Encourage him to do some things he likes.  Encourage him to exercise.  Give him some space but be there for him

and again, most importantly, try to communicate and help him.  peace

[babyC_1]

I shouldn't have to worry about this I'm 26 weeks pregnant..  it's just got me all kinds of emotional.

[babyC_1]

If I mentioned concealing to him he would probably get upset.  He's very stubborn.  I don't know how to react anymore or how to feel. I always feel like the bad guy in the end. Should I give him space and see if this blows over??

[jayetami]

Oh no. It may get worse when the baby comes. Howd he going to feel when the baby gets fussy and wakes up throughout the night. Smh this could be disastrous but u have to try and not stress about it. Maybe try some couseling. I agree he might be facing depression. Seek professional help asap!

[Jadabug55]

Well to be honest I have severe depression and it gets worse at certain times of the year and that's what it sounds like to me. Maybe try and let him take a trip for the weekend and then when he gets back he can find a counselor he can talk to cause it seriously helps. I swear when I read what his text said I could feel how he does and I know it feels horrible.  I pushed everyone away cause I didn't know what to do and I wanted to escape. The fact that he wants to leace for a bit is a sign of wanting to escape. Maybe you can let him know that you can't escape life but to take a trip and then yano face some stuff. He could be really stressed. Maybe he likes change maybe a change of scenery will help. I've been through a lot and I'm sure you have to.  Good luck. :)

[nellebaby24]

That's depression he seems to be dealing with. I deal with it on a constant day to day basis myself. Reassuring him will help alot even though he may act like it's still bugging him

[wife_and_mama2014]

I know my husband gets very depressed due to work sometimes. And even though I know it's work, I can help but feel like it's our problem. Something to do with us. It's hard to shake that feeling. If he's too busy or you guys can't afford to, maybe just try to plan something really special for him. A "just because" thing to lift his spirits and let him know you're trying. I'm sure he'd appreciated it and even feel bad for acting the way he has been. Make him his favorite dinner and dessert, do all the chores, let him play video games if he's into that, watch his favorite movies, get him some beers or drinks he likes, and just tell him you wanna hang out and talk. About anything. Or not talk! Just have fun :) whatever he needs to do. If that doesn't work, maybe suggest he sees a professional, or marriage counseling. It's not fair if you are the only one constantly making an effort.

[babyC_1]

That is the text message he sent me.




""Stress for one than other honestly I'm like really unhappy with everything in life period. I don't want to talk about it though just feel like I don't know what to do any more with anything. me personal just want to get away (please don't get mad) but from you and every other mother ******. I just want to load up by myself and just leave for a while and not look back at nothing fir a while. If I could go just for a week that be amazing but I know that will never happen.""

[babyC_1]

It's really hard to do that,  he works two jobs right now. I think that has the most to do with it. I just don't know i try and try and every little thing I do pisses him off so bad.

[jessijlb1229]

He might be fighting with depression.  Like its not you that he's unhappy with.  It's anything and everything right now. I agree with the other ladies maybe ya'll should take a weekend vacation somewhere cheap. Maybe as as surprise for him. Just going to a hotel somewhere where ya'll can relax at the pool etc for a day might lift his spirits a little.

[babyC_1]

No we weren't arguing. He's at work and I texted him asking how his night was and he said he was having a bad night and then he drops that on me. Like he's told one of his friends he isn't happy with our relationship anymore.  I can't help but take it personally. I thought I was doing so good and trying to be the best wife I could possibly be to him.  I didn't think it was to this point. He's been acting so different lately.  It's like he's a completely different person than 4 years ago.

[wife_and_mama2014]

Don't be too upset with him, and I know it's hard, but try not to take it personally. Honestly, I think we all feel that way sometimes, we just keep it to ourselves. I know there's been times I feel the same way. But I know I would regret it big time. I love my husband completely. But life gets hard and sometimes we wish we could take a time out. Have a break. Talk to him without judgment or anger, and tell him you understand. Maybe suggest he go on a trip. Or stay at a friends for a few nights. Let him know that it's okay to feel overwhelmed and stressed. Even scared. Your lives are about to change drastically, and everyone handles it different. It's good he was honest with you about how he's feeling. So don't make him feel guilty. Personally I'd suggest a trip for him, or even the two of you together. Even if it's camping or something. Something cheap. Just to get away and enjoy each other without the stresses of other things.

[Avawright]

Did you guys argue ?