husbands not in to me anymore

[Brittany1988]

my husbands has been acting funny these few weeks he always wants to have sex with me intel now he has been distance he has not touched me in 3 weeks we have not had sex and i am very worried about it but i think hes been jacking off in the shower what do i do

[lovemykids465]

if you are so bothered by this just ask him what is wrong, That is the starting point. See where that takes you, I will admit, when my husband was cheating the sex did not stop with us, but he was very moody( he had an emotional affair stopped it before it turned physical but cheating is cheating to me) now I know it was his guilty conscience.

He stopped the affair once my girlfriend came over one day ( her husband did cheat and they divorced, with her  bff I should say and they moved in together)  she and I were talking about what she wanted to do to him and the other woman and I said what I would do if I were in that situation( not very nice) my husband was sitting listening to our convo.

[Jaybay]

EEEEEEWWWWW!!!!  Teke, you're killing me!  :-D

[teko]

el_em_en_oh LOL, Nobody wants the cow anymore! They get the milk free havent you heard!

I say why are you wandering around letting all these hostage thoughts race thru your head! You are his wife. You have shared the most intimate of times that two people can engage in. So what is your problem? Ask the man straight out! You being his wife will no right off if  he is lying! Maybe there is something else going on? How else are you going to know? And dont go to smelling his underwear.

[el_em_en_oh]

Communicate with him. It's surprising how much you'll learn from a little conversation/discussion.

Assuming he's cheating on you, as msniki412 indicated, is about as stupid as seeing a gallon of milk in my fridge and automatically assuming I own a cow. Please don't jump to that conclusion.

Could he possibly be stressed at work?
Do you have financial problems?
Is he the primary income in the household?
Are you having marriage difficulties?
Is he having familial problems (issues with siblings, parents, etc)?

There are numerous reasons that he's not wanting sex lately. I implore you to communicate with him and ask him what's going on with him. I wouldn't lead off with, "Why don't you want to have sex with me?", mind you, but lead into it, and try and get some background from him as to what's possibly bothering him.

Please don't listen to msniki412. Although that's her opinion and she's entitled to it, 'cheating' shouldn't be the first thing that pops into your head.

[specialmom]

Why would you say he is cheating based on this post?  I'd not go into a conversation and assume that because it turns a conversation into a confrontation.  But that is just my opinion.  

[msniki412]

Sorry to say, but it sounds like he may be cheating. Have you talked to him about this? Express your concerns and see what he has to say about it. Maybe he is under stress...too much stress can wreak havoc on anybody's sex life.

[specialmom]

Well, you could ask him why he is not interested after approaching him to be intimate (assuming he turns you down.)  Why not instigate it yourself and see what happens.  Usually a man would rather be with a woman than by himself in a shower----------  so you need to improve your ability to talk to one another and see what is going on.  Are you fighting lately?