at what age daugther should stop kissing father in mouth

[mariposa33]

I been with my boyfriend for 1 1/2, there are things that bother me, I talk to him and he doesn't do anything about it.
his daughter is going to be 14yrs old this year and she spend the weekend with us, but latetly I been seen thnks that I don't like, they still kiss in the lips, another thing that bother me it that when he laydown in bed she come lay next to him(cuttle) and put her knee like on top on his private part ( pennis) and them they look at each other and kiss in the lips...and some time she would see him in bed and put his arm on top of his private part.
I get this chill all over my body when I see this...I need help PLEASE help me.

when he comes to kiss me, this come to my mind.
what should I do?

[mariposa33]

I did talk to him before about the things that I don't like, maybe it just me, I was raise differently, I was not aloud to sit at any men or relative lap, were to kiss my dad as far as I remember in the chick, I were to put pant under my skirts etc.

last night we had this conversation, all he said oooh stopped...
I told him that really give me chill...we ended argument...

he see nothing wrong...

[mariposa33]

Thank you so much for your help. this will make me think and do what is best for me.

I suffer from anxiety and depression and this is something I will not tolerate in my house.

[specialmom]

Hi there and welcome.  Sorry you are having a tough time in your relationship.  Well, it is hard to say what is going on.  I personally think that in general, kissing a parent on the lips is something you don't have to outgrow.  It's not sexual and a peck of a kiss is not something to be offended by.  But that is just my opinion on it.  My boys are only 9 and 10 and they give me pecks.  And they also will cuddle with me.  It's the farthest thing from sexual that it could be.  It's just affection and familiarity.  So, I don't know if that is what is going on.  

If you feel that this man is being sexual with his daughter, that is another matter entirely. Then, you must protect this girl as she is a victim to molestation and abuse by her father.  That includes a call to CPS and the authorities to save her from something no child should be put through.  I do believe that when this happens, it is the adult that is committing the crime against the child.  

If you don't really feel it is sexual but it makes you uncomfortable, then your only recourse is to talk to him gently about it.  I mean, you can ask him to stop it if you feel strongly about it.  It's not HER fault though, just remember that.  This is the relationship that he created with her as the parent and he is the one that continues it.  So, really, you need to keep that in mind and judge HIM for it and if it's not really sexual but you don't like it and he still continues it, this just might not be a great match for you.

It's so hard to make it all work when there are kids involved but hopefully it will work out for you.  peace