ladies i need your advice

[joyangeldent]

For the passed two weeks my fiance and I have had many of arguments or "disagreemental" mind you we just moved from California to Georgia and were staying with my sister until I get on my feet (which should be soon) . I Love this man So much I am carrying his Baby and sometimes I think he might leave me or that he is cheating. I'm driving myself insane trying to keep our relationship alive he claims he wants to be with me but he lacks affection and I need that the most the way my hormones are acting. Ladies help me, am i crazy or what's going on???? Any and every advice will help.

[specialmom]

Good questions by Londres.  

I think it is really hard when we feel desperate and your post is written in a way that I picture you trying SO hard to get his attention and 'make him love you' that this in itself is going to be a problem.  Try to relax.  

and get really busy with your own life.  What kind of job do you have or are you getting in Georgia?  What's the plan??  Get busy with that stuff, building a life there, etc.  He should be doing the same.  And then you are interdependent people and not dependent on each other.  Relationships work better that way.

And I suspect that what you are really writing about is that you feel an emotional distance.  Yes, talk to him!!  And perhaps plan a few outings that are just FUN.  Not about the baby or talking about serious matters but like dates to get back to enjoying one another's company.  

good luck

[Londres70]

What exactly is he doing when you say he "lacks affection?"

Take into consideration:

1.  You both just made a major move and relocating is stressful.

2.  There is going to be a baby here shortly and that is stressful.

3.  I am not sure about his employment, but jobs nowadays aren't easy to come by and if he left a job behind and has none now then that is stressful.  Plus, you aren't working.

4.  You both are living with a relative of yours and that is stressful; not having your own place.

In a nutshell, he may be TOO stressed to be overly affectionate with you at the moment.

May I ask why did you move from California to Georgia?

Have you tried talking to him about the situation?

[jessijlb1229]

You both are going threw a very stressful time right now and everyone handles that differently. I'm sure between the hormones and him stressing about ya'lls move has everything crazy. Just try to take a deep breath ya'll will work threw it. Every relationship is like a roller-coaster each time you work threw the lows makes the relationship stronger. I say this from experience the hubby and I have been together for 11 years and going strong. But believe me we've been threw some dark tunnels so to speak.

[Vanna2723]

Its hormones!  I asked my hubby if he was cheating, if he even loved me, or if he was on drugs!lol he finally yelled at me and said I was crazy. If he didn't love me why was he doing everything I asked? If he was cheating or on drugs how did he have money to buy me something etc. Anyways if you really believe it just ask him! I was paranoid for weeks until he told me off lol