long distance realtionship

[shelly03]

i am in a long distance relationship. It can be really hard to trust my bf cause we dont see each other all the time. He keeps telling me that he has been faithful to me and he loves me. We talk to each other everyday on the phone. We plan to be at one place and have a family. I am worried that he might be seeing other girls.. is long distance realtionship worth holding on to??

[Judy246]

p.s. I was in a long distant relationship. I am from Chicago and he was from Detroit. We really cared for each other and when together had great chemistry and lot's of fun, but our culters were too different (I'm hispanic and he was arabic) and it became very costly. I would fly out there and he would fly out here and it reached a point where we both knew we had to move on, because it was just not going to work out....good luck!

[Judy246]

You don't state what state or country you are both in. Long distance relationships rarely work out, because you both neither see each other or spend quality time nurturing the relationship for grown and possibly take it to the next level. We women also have that six sense or intuition that tells us when something is just not right. I would ask him, where do you see us 5 years from now and his answer should give you an ideal of where the relationship is going, but it's very rare for long distance relationships to work out, because you don't see each other and temptations are everywhere.

[heatherlynn22]

dh and i were in a ldr during the entire we dated and were engaged. of course i've known him for almost 18 years so i guess that helps. he was stationed in okinawa, japan for 2 years and d.c for 1 year. now...we've been married for almost 2 years, 2 kids and of course living together since he got out of active duty last year.

you have to have an immense amount of trust in each other. if there is no trust there is no relationship. that even goes for those who live in the same town. or even next door. no trust no relationship.

[mami1323]

I would say it could if there are plans that you two will be moving to eachother in the near future.  The longer you stay away, the more likely the relationship won't last.  It's hard enough to trust the person you are with when they are living right under the same roof, let alone an entirely different state or country.

[iam1butterfly]

... and, therein lies the problem with long distance romances. You only know what the other person is telling you and vice versa. So, trust is one major key factor.
The other reality is that there is no substitute for one-on-one, face-to-face interaction. Phone calls, e-mails, text messaging and love letters (if anyone still writes them!) are all well and fine. But, can they sustain a relationship? Usually, they can't... but, there are always exceptions.

[jo929]

That deoebds on age how much you each care for each other , but if you are young i wouild venture to say it will not ladt long. really long distance relationships are no good, now if he is in the service and you are promised that might be different, even then look at the people that do cheat  luck  jo

[broke123]

I’ve was in a long distance relationship when I was 19ish for a year and a half. We never really had trust issues, we both just kind of knew that the other wouldn’t do anything. We loved each to death. But it was really really hard on me to be away from him, I was depressed through all the time we were apart. Eventually, I made the choice to brake it off, as I didn’t want to leave my family behind and move to where he was, and he couldn’t move here, also due to family. Plus I felt that I didn’t want to be depressed anymore, so I ended it. I am 26 now and I have regretted that decision more than a few times.
So trust is something you need to work on, without trust no relationship will work, not even a close distance one. Talk about it, tell him your concerns and go from there.
Good luck.