my kid hates me

[sadderbytheday]

  my son is 25 .He is working full time ,hes not lazy at all .there is some drug abuse and severe abondment  issues when he was younger but every day I tell him I love him .Ive wrote an Im so sorry and if I could go back letters which was 100 % honest ,some nights I get so mad at myself .It hurts me as well .I cant even talk about anything and he snaps and tells f.off and calls me a crackhead.well he quit that but he calls me a alcoholic I do have a drink at night but only 1,he also screams at his grandma like that and is so miserable sometimes I wonder if he has a cauntionce.My mom treated him like a baby until yesterday driving him for fast food after work instead of home cooking because he doesn't like a lot of things which gets  me angry because that becomes an addiction too.Is it possible he has no guilt or feelings?

[Life360_Dave]

Hi, the longer he is alone the more apt he will some day work out these issues he has. In some ways being angry at the parents is the ultimate rebellion and young men at the age tend to rebell at most things. At that age they start to form their own opinions about things and often get carried away with this gift they have discovered.  Sorry to mention this but it appears he does not respect you. Does he live with you?

[RockRose]

Sadder,  I can't tell specifically what the details are with your past,  but it sounds like you left him when he was a child but now you want a relationship with him again?

[Ohioman93]

Is it possible he has no guilt or feelings?

He has feelings. There is no doubt about it. Honestly though, you have to work even harder for those feelings. I know you care enough. You can't change the past, but work as hard as you can to change the future. Give everything you got. Because when hope goes, your relationship goes too. Stay persistent/yet give him his space. Have belief in yourself. Hope all works out!