Depression

[raemooney94]

So i just over heard my daughters fathers family talking crap about me behind my back. Im living with them bc i really have no place to go and having a hard time finding a job. I dealt with depression before pregnancy for most my life. Its gotten worse during my pregnancy and my doc put me on anti depressants until my third trimester. How do i handle something like this? And these are people who i thought really cared about me.

[specialmom]

I like the way you write.  You sound smart and I can tell that you are wanting a better life for yourself.  That you say that you don't want food stamps and other govt. assistance forever is very telling at the kind of person you are!  You go girl---  I'm proud of you!!  The programs are for people exactly like you.  It IS unfortunate that you are having issues because you are 20 (I guess you have to be 21?).  

What will be fantastic is when you don't have to live with your boyfriend's family or have to care what they say or think or do.  Great goal!!  Ya know, you absolutely could apply for grant aid for schooling --- from paralegal (they make a GREAT income, it costs around 7000 for the full degree and aid for those in need will often pay for the whole thing, and it takes a year and a half. . .    really a great program for women and a good job to have), ultrasound tech, phlebotomist, medical transcription, hair design, nurse assistant, surgical aid, etc.  Lots of programs that lead to jobs that pay good money so you and your child (and your boyfriend if he is a contributing member of the household . . .  no freeloading off of you) can live comfortably on your own.  I'd really start looking into it right now!!  

Now, for your aid--------  I would be very vocal and make lots of calls.  You ARE in need.  They can't leave you to be hungry or to not have medical care.  If you need to move to protect your benefits, move.  WHERE else can you go?  Anywhere at all?  An aunt, cousin, friend???  What about section 8 apartments?  

You need a caseworker.  And you could even talk to your doctors office---  they may give you a place to call for help.  You seem like such a nice girl!  I want this to work out for you.  Oh, and I'm so glad you are treating your depression.  Once you have the baby, monitor that closely and take medication again if you drift to depression as post partum is a hard time for some women.

If there is anything I can do to help, I always here.  peace

[Chima7]

The problem becomes when multiple people using the same addresss are using food stamps, it looks very suspicious. If you're saying that there are 10 people living in that house and several of them are getting food stamps and you were as well in addition to medicaid then it's no wonder there was a red flag that made social service take notice. They deal with fraudulent claims on a daily basis so they look for stuff like multiple people at the same address requesting assistance. There's nothing you can do about it except move out and use a different address so you don't lose yours. I know you say you have nowhere to go but don't you have any family or friends at all? Where did they all disappear to? I would crash on a friend's couch before I'd ever live with any of my ex's families!

[TiaDay]

I understand what your going through. My boyfriends family has done the samething. They are nice to me to my face but then behind my back they talk **** and its all because i lost my job about a month ago and even though i have put in applications everywhere i still havent found a job. You just need to keep your head up and not let what they are saying get you down! Its very bad on your baby when you are depressed so you need to try your hardest to stay happy:)

[raemooney94]

Thanks hun. I agree.

[Bree_ItsABoy]

Don't even listen to people who choose to be so catty. Your situation is not theirs, and they aren't medically trained to tell you whether you are actually depressed or not.

Honestly ladies, grow up and start acting like the grown "adults" you seem to think you are. Her employment status, welfare status, and medical needs are NOT yours to play the name game on.

[raemooney94]

And im not lazy. Im constantly cooking and cleaning for 9 ppl. And they are talking crap bc they are mad i gave this address to my doc who called medicaid and my address just recently changed. And they got a paper saying they are going to lose their food stamps if they dont turn in documents. They are the lazy ones. So no its not me needing to fix myself.

[raemooney94]

I have been putting apps in like crazy. Its not the food stamps im so much worried about but the medicaid.  I dont like not working or living off the government. But i cant afford to pay the ungodly amount of insurance. My current job cut my hours. I work one day a week. So before you judge. Know all the facts.

[elenaway01]

Never share ur **** with people u don't Noe them and get on it how ****** hard is it to get a job I dislike people like u there's people who have it worse that make it happen get off ur *** and go store to store applying trust ull get hired stop being lazy just cuz ur prego don't mean ur handicap and rebuke depression in the name of Jesus Christ move with him and u can go wrong also don't go to a shelter at all that's dumb u can do girl if women have done it before u women up

[elenaway01]

Well if there talking crap fix ur self there must be a reason people don't talk **** just to do it if they say ur lazy get up and clean when ever u live I. Someone's house always maintain urself and stay private

[firsttimemommy2915]

I'm going through the exact same thing, except with my own parents. Confront them calmly, and explain exactly how you are feeling. Either it could turn out good, or bad. But it's better to try, and clear the air. Good luck, people can be such jerks.

[Bree_ItsABoy]

Call the department of workforce services and ask what's going on. I would tell them straight up that you received notification that you are going to lose your benefits over living with them. Explain that you do your food separately.

Me and my sister live together and she has 5 kids, I'm about to have my first. DWS knows that we live at the same address, and we are both on Medicaid and food stamps. The only thing they ever asked us was if we prepare our food separately. Which we do. If we didn't we wouldn't get our benifits, or as much. I'm not sure exactly on that. But there's no reason you shouldn't each be able to have your own cases and your own benefits.

[layla1215]

I would go to a womens shelter and they will help you with finding a job and housing. If they really cared they would tell you why they have a problem with you or if they have a problem with you. So yall can work through it as a family

[raemooney94]

Id have to be with their food stamps. Which they wont even be living here much longer so im not doing tht. And im 20 years old. Youd think id be able to just have my own case but apparently not. Its all just so frustrating. I do everything for his family for them to just talk crap about me behind my back. I hate tht im so tender hearted!!!

[miracle_mommy2014]

my mom had food stamps too....my name was under her food stamps but yet she would always be stingy with them...we had na agruement and she told me she would take my name ofd because she could get them without me....funny thing i got pregnant needed medicaid of course....and i had my own case got my mediciad and food stamps. and now she has none. i thought it was funny.

anyways. sometimes things with medicaid and food stamps happen. but to where your pregnant they should be more concered about you getting medicaid then them....i understand people need insurance but i mean things happen its not your fault how workforce works and if things get messed up. you should go in and reapply you should automatically get them because your pregnant. if its that big of a deal to them they can go re apply as well. idk how old you are but you living there shouldnt effect them because they arent even your family....but i could be wrong. im sorry....but dont let them stress you out. i would still say something to them because they shouldnt be so disrepectful to say **** behind your back. but i hope things work out.

[raemooney94]

See im the same way. But im not allowed to speak my mind here or i get yelled at. This is all about medicaid. I had to change my address with my doc. Well the doc office called medicaid and i live with ppl who are on it and they got a paper in the mail saying they are going to lose their food stamps. Well im bout to lose my medicaid and im pregnant and already am thousands of dollars in debt in hospital bills.  And i lost my food stamps. I just dont know what to do anymore. My boyfriend said hed figure out why they are talking crap behind my back. If i cant use the address i live at. Then what am i suppose to do?

[miracle_mommy2014]

well idk about but when i hear people talking **** on me....its normally always my mom but i call them/her out on it. if i were you i would have just walked in where they were and been like im sorry what was that? i personally would rather have people say stuff to my face so i can defend myself. but its up to you.

[samik20]

Either talk to ur boyfriend about it in ur own time and explain how it made u feel ... But just becuz u hear ur bfs family bitching about u doesn't mean they don't care people have opinions about others and at the end of the day they are human and I'm nearly certain people who love and care for me have bitched about me in their lives try not to take it to personally as u will upset urself ... They are proble just having a rant ... They most likely don't mean what they have said ... I'm sorry to hear u have had a hard time with depression I really hope u figure things out and get urself on the right track and find happiness