mom daughter thing

[dessie2beautiful]

my mom is kind of the person who wants to have this perfect relationship with me and shes not giving me any space. she wants me to always tell her everything but im not comfortable wiht that and the things i do tell her she gets mad. i want to be able to tell my mom everything but i cant if she just gets mad. then she treats me like a kid. she is always in my business not to say that i think im grown or whatever but i dont know what to do.... help me

[BluCrystal]

Tell your mom that you WANT to talk to her and share your concerns about life with her because you love her.  Tell her that the reason you don't share as much as you want to is because she gets angry with you.  Your mom will always be concerned about you and what you are doing.  Tell her that right now what you need most is to be able to have calm conversations with her, and that you will listen to her when she wants to give you advice or 'lay down the law'... if she would just please not use her 'angry voice'.  You need her to use her 'I love my child' voice'. :)  See how that goes.  I try my best to do this with my own daughter, and sometimes it is difficult to do.  But we have both found that sugar goes down much better than lemon. - Blu

[AnnieBrooke]

If she wants you to have a perfect relationship, she is making a mistake to get mad.  All you can do is let her know that you don't like telling her things because she gets mad.  If *that* makes her mad, well, at least you have told her the truth.