trying to keep positive

[Xcitedmamma]

My partner (30) & myself (23) have really distanced since I fell pregnant in September; his best mate passed away th day I conceived (we found out I was preg in October a couple of days after funeral) & I think he is in a depression. We now live separately & I barely spend 1 night a week with him coz of his anger. He is now drinking a lot & possibly doing other things. Iv also recently caught him out with other (as I secretly know his fb password) one of which was 16 & other 18. He's now admitted to being with 6 or 7 others & I'm hurt to me these girls r kids, I feel worthless & depressed. But th worst thing is I don't hate him? Why not? I want a family, I'm just finding it so hard to walk away. I'm chasing him. Please help!

[Xcitedmamma]

Thank u ladies. Have distanced myself so much already now to just ignore th daily abusive msgs & calls as I let them get too me all too much.
I'm in Australia so th laws for sexual consent r very different - 16 is actually legal - as iv already looked into having him charged. I will b getting myself tested at my next appointment :( how absolutely discusted & embarrassed I am.
Also no I don't have my own family support they live so far away, but I do have his families support as he's pushed his own family away they're discusted with his behaviour too. Also being in Australia I believe we receive more help as parents from the government then Americans do? But I already have my career planned - heading back to tafe when bub is 6months to continue my cert III in beauty as I left due to th depression & th fumes aren't healthy while pregnant then cert IIII. Just having trouble ending it & keeping positive at this stage - 17w - don't want depression to take over. Thank u for your help & advice trying to keep myself occupied & surrounded with good positive friends <3 x

[Life360_Dave]

Hi, really sorry about what your going through. You dont have to hate him but i would take a stand. He is responsible for the babies support and i would take this direction at this point with legal means. You have other issues with him sleeping around, like sexually transmitted diseases. You dont know if he is using protection and you would be at risk contracting something if he is not and thats all you need being pregnant. When the baby is born you will have a family, you will meet a nice person some day but you need to get down to business holding him responsible now.
Youll be ok, just be strong.

[specialmom]

Hi there and welcome.  Very sorry for your situation dear as it sounds dreadful.  Your partner sounds depressed, serverely and frankly, not someone you should subject yourself with.  I'd personally call the authorities and report the hook up with a 16 year old (as that is absolutely disgusting!!!!).  He's not really with you at this point emotionally or physically.  He's already pretty much left the relationship.  

He's cheated many times, he's a heavy drinker and possibly doing drugs. And rarely with you.  What is attractive about this?  I do understand that you are now pregnant with his child but I am not picturing him all of a sudden becoming this great father figure.  

Do you have family support?  Are your ready to raise this baby alone?  Sadly, I think that will be the reality.  Adoption is always an option as well if that sounds like you can't do it or too hard.  No shame in adoption.  And if you do decide to raise the baby yourself, then just get some plans together.  

Again, I"m so very sorry.  I know this isn't how you pictured it working out.  But he doesn't seem like he wants to work it out or that he is worth working it out with.  good luck dear and stay in touch.  we're here for you.