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Okay so i have been w my current bf for a yr and a half...my ex i have a daughter with we have not been together or done nething in almlost 2 yrs..im sooo confused him and i started talking again earlier this week and it has just went back to the wy it was when we were togther...let me say anther thing he is married...has been for 4 yrs...thats another story!
well my concern is for past 8-10 months me and my bf have been fighting alot and just not getting along...and it sems like for past 2-3 months has gotten worse..and to say more..im 12 wks pregnant!
i have NEVER cheated on any of my bf's and thats the truth but for some reason i feel myself running FAST for my ex once again even tho i kno it would just be a booty call thing we would never really have relationship again bc of wife and kids!!! but i am starting to have feeling all over again and i really do believe he was my true love...we never faught!!! i kno thats sounds stupid but true!
my quetion i guess is if him and i just talk and text and dont "do it" is that still cheating?
one more thing i have met up w him 2times now and yes i have kissd him but thats it! i wanna go further but dont kno wat to do
and im not posting this so people can judge me and say im a **** or fool i just wanna kno wat i should do w my bf and my ex
well my concern is for past 8-10 months me and my bf have been fighting alot and just not getting along...and it sems like for past 2-3 months has gotten worse..and to say more..im 12 wks pregnant!
i have NEVER cheated on any of my bf's and thats the truth but for some reason i feel myself running FAST for my ex once again even tho i kno it would just be a booty call thing we would never really have relationship again bc of wife and kids!!! but i am starting to have feeling all over again and i really do believe he was my true love...we never faught!!! i kno thats sounds stupid but true!
my quetion i guess is if him and i just talk and text and dont "do it" is that still cheating?
one more thing i have met up w him 2times now and yes i have kissd him but thats it! i wanna go further but dont kno wat to do
and im not posting this so people can judge me and say im a **** or fool i just wanna kno wat i should do w my bf and my ex
Reality - your ex- is married. His wife found out about his affair with you, no doubt a big storm erupted between them at the time, and he decided to stay with her (and she with him). You are never going to have this man to yourself, and if you can't have that it is not a relationship worth pursuing. Even if you feel this is the man you 'should' be with, it's not going to happen, and as hard as it may be, you have to let go.
The tough thing is that you have a child with this man. I assume he knows it's his, and he want some level of involvement in her life - which is not unreasonable, as long as he's making a positive contribution to her life (and his wife knows this too). This means that you do need to stay in touch with him, 'phone him, text him, and see him, so that you can arrange for him to spend time with his daughter. I know it can't be easy, but you must keep your contact with him strictly platonic, just friends, no flirting, kissing, nothing. And insist he does the same. The limits must be clearly defined and stuck to.
As for your current boyfriend, you don't talk about him much in your message so I have no idea how you feel about him. You are pregnant (I assume by your current boyfriend), so you have a serious decision to make and soon. You cannot go back to this married man, so you just need to decide if you want to stay with this guy or not, and if you want to have the baby (depending on your own views on the choice/life debate).
Stay strong, and take care of yourself.
The tough thing is that you have a child with this man. I assume he knows it's his, and he want some level of involvement in her life - which is not unreasonable, as long as he's making a positive contribution to her life (and his wife knows this too). This means that you do need to stay in touch with him, 'phone him, text him, and see him, so that you can arrange for him to spend time with his daughter. I know it can't be easy, but you must keep your contact with him strictly platonic, just friends, no flirting, kissing, nothing. And insist he does the same. The limits must be clearly defined and stuck to.
As for your current boyfriend, you don't talk about him much in your message so I have no idea how you feel about him. You are pregnant (I assume by your current boyfriend), so you have a serious decision to make and soon. You cannot go back to this married man, so you just need to decide if you want to stay with this guy or not, and if you want to have the baby (depending on your own views on the choice/life debate).
Stay strong, and take care of yourself.
you missed the point. you will never have a man of your own, none will want you, none will commit to you or take you seriously, and you'll always be setting yourself up to be just a 'side gig' for them. that's your bad luck in store when you take on messing with married men. try not to be soooo boy crazy. slow down for awhile. you're a mother now taking on grown up responsibilities ( i hope) take some time for yourself and your kids. i promise you, men aren't going anywhere!
bc up untill my daughter was 2 i have been alone and only taking care of them!
i finally met a high school guy i went to school w and we started dating and it went from there...i feel that yeah our relationship is over but then again u can always fix it...and for the ex he was one the bf's i truly cared about and like i said i have never cheated on anyone and for some rreason im getting pulled towards it and sorry to say an affair w a married guy is not all the bad and or bad luck.....we had our affair going on for almost 2 yrs before she found out!
i finally met a high school guy i went to school w and we started dating and it went from there...i feel that yeah our relationship is over but then again u can always fix it...and for the ex he was one the bf's i truly cared about and like i said i have never cheated on anyone and for some rreason im getting pulled towards it and sorry to say an affair w a married guy is not all the bad and or bad luck.....we had our affair going on for almost 2 yrs before she found out!
"and im not posting this so people can judge me and say im a **** or fool i just wanna kno wat i should do w my bf and my ex"
if you feel like your ex is the 'one that got away', you have to accept that. do not begin an affair with a married man. you'll live in torment and bad luck will haunt you. if you are through with your current relationship, then leave. i must say honestly that you don't seem very mature and ready for love and relationships at all. you have children. why don't you focus on them and give them your 100% for awhile. once you fall in love with them, i'm confident you'll be capable and willing to make more reasonable and careful decisions in everything for all of your futures
if you feel like your ex is the 'one that got away', you have to accept that. do not begin an affair with a married man. you'll live in torment and bad luck will haunt you. if you are through with your current relationship, then leave. i must say honestly that you don't seem very mature and ready for love and relationships at all. you have children. why don't you focus on them and give them your 100% for awhile. once you fall in love with them, i'm confident you'll be capable and willing to make more reasonable and careful decisions in everything for all of your futures
another thing i have been in 4 real relationships, long ones and for some reason theres this electricity pulling me back to my last bf...and i just want some advise...please
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