What do I do?

[jbirdie1014]

My boyfriend of 3 years and father of my daughter cheated on me with my "best friend" about 9 months ago. It went on for about 2 months. Once it stopped he kept trying. It never happened again once it stopped but he tried. He says he just wanted to see if she would do it again after they said they wouldnt. I want to be with him and we tried for about 2 weeks but I just cant help but sit here and wonder what hesthinking or when hes out who hes with or what hes doing. WHAT DO I DO? I love him I do but I dont wanna keep hurting myself. Im just so confused!!!!

[nene06]

U can do bad all by ya self is really all I can say cheating is one thing but 2 do it with ya soo called bestie n then not evn feel sorry bout tha situation n den come running back 2 u all cus she turned him dwn smh dats a NO NO.....leave both of them alone they r not loyal and def. Can't b trusted...u can have some1 treat u n ya bby with tha best and u deserve it....good luck n e way its not ez but worth tha struggle.

[peaceinknowing]

Once trust is gone in a relationship, there is no relationship. I see where you're coming from, so try and talk with him a little more about this and see what kind of conclusion the two of you are able to come up with...if I were in your situation, I would be a single woman out there in the world looking for other options.

[MrS_L0PeZ]

I'm sorry that you are going thru this with your BF. What he did was wrong, selfish, disrespectful & heartless. I could go on & on.... Its obvious that he has no remorse because the stupid comment he made to you. He not only cheated on you but he cheated on you with your so called "Bestfriend". Thats like a smack in the face by both of them. As for your "bestfriend" I would not even talk to her anymore. Obviously your friendship with her didn't mean anything to her because she slept with your man. Relationships are all about trust and respect & he has broken both of them. How do you know he won't do it again?  Its up to you if you decide to stay with him or not. But if I were you I would definately leave him!! Good Luck!

[mami1323]

I would only work it out with him if he showed real remorse and regret and was willing to change his ways.  However, I don't see that with your boyfriend.  Particularly regarding the comment "he just wanted to see if she would do it again."  What does that tell you?  I'm all for making it work, especially if you have a child but only if the person who did the betrayal was willing to put in the effort.  With that I mean going to counseling and taking it seriously.  I understand your hurt because I've been there but I also know that if I didn't sense complete remorse, I wouldn't of even given it a second chance.

[Judy246]

I'm sorry that you are going through this and your concern  of future infidelity is justifiable. You b/f has proven himself to be disrespectful, dishonest, untrustworth, opportunist and a cheater. I can't believe that he actually told you that "he just wanted to see if "she" would do i again, what kind of bs is that!  He has show you his true colors and character.

I understand that you love him, but if he would have loved you the same way, he would have respected you and the relationship. Relationships are build on trust and respect and he has broken both and proven to be a risk for future infidelities.

You have choices, you can stay in this dysfunctional relationship and hope that he will never do it again, but the only person you can change is you, he has prove himself to be untrustworthy or chose to leave the relationship, because although it will be a very difficult decision to make, you will show him that his behavior was and is unexceptable and you will never permit anyone to ever treat your or hurt you this way.

There is a great big beautiful world out there for the picken...there are hundreds of guys just waiting to meet you, get to know you and treat you with the respect and love that you deserve. Good luck. Judy