Did I Contribute to Wife's Bladder Infection?

[Rex_T]

I posted about my worried from getting a "lap dance" here:
http://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/What-was-the-risk-of-STD/show/1379890?personal_page_id=1853211#post_6296407

From the one reply, it sounds like the chances of having picked up an STD are pretty low, but I'm going to go get tested anyway. The clinic I called said a person needs to wait two weeks after exposure for the Chlamydia and Gonorrhea tests, six weeks for Syphilis, and 12 weeks for HIV and Herpes. That lap dance was two Saturdays ago. Last Saturday was the first time my wife and I had intercourse afterwards. Today my wife got a prescription for an antibiotic after phoning her doctor due to having what she thinks is a bladder infection. She found blood in her urine and has a lot of pain urinating.

Is there something I could have given her that would show up three days after we had sex? Is this just guilt on my part on top of something unrelated?

Thanks for any info you can provide.

[JessyJames2010]

"YES...you could have given her something. "

           I am willing to bet you money that you are wrong.   The likely hood that Rex_T gave
           his wife something is very very low from the striper encounter.

"You don't have to wait all those different times for testing either. I am not sure WHAT kind of clinic told you that but if it was true...all sexual assault victims would be in big trouble."
           Please educate yourself on STDs and window periods as well as what clinics do
           with matters of rape victims.
           RE-read what grace said.

"It sounds from what you have written that you had MORE than a lap dance and you have now had sex with your wife and dont have the 'stones' to fess up!...."
          Everyone is pretty anonymous here so it is liklely Rex_T has a complete story.
      
We don't use the judgemental approach on medhelp when trying to help people: we just utilize our approach based on education, real facts by the Dr's (HHH and EWH), maturity and respect.  

[gracefromHHP]

even if this was a naked lap dance, it's still very low risk for std's - especially ones that would cause this in your wife.

odds are whatever your wife has going on isn't related to your lap dance. she should continue to follow up on  things on her side so that she finds out what is going on.

grace

[gracefromHHP]

the times for testing he was given were absolutely correct.  you do have to wait for testing at the proper times.  

women who are sexually assaulted receive baseline testing for std's and then are told when to come back for follow up. anyone who hasn't been told that, received poor care and their health and future fertility is at risk.

grace

[Rex_T]

Thanks for the replies.

mooksmom: The incident was exactly as I described in the other post. The clinic is Planned Parenthood.

[mooksmom]

YES...you could have given her something. You don't have to wait all those different times for testing either. I am not sure WHAT kind of clinic told you that but if it was true...all sexual assault victims would be in big trouble. It sounds from what you have written that you had MORE than a lap dance and you have now had sex with your wife and dont have the 'stones' to fess up! GGGRRRRRR! Enough said.

[JessyJames2010]

Hi

We usally re-read our own replies and eachother's if someone has something to add, or if they disagree then someone will add or say something, this is  from what I have seen.  

I re-read you exposure.    I don't think you caught anything from it in my honest opinion.   Go ahead and test as this will give you peace of mind and you can move on with your life.